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The Greatest Protection A Masculine Can Provide His Feminine

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Hello Lovely,
The greatest protection a masculine can provide his feminine is protection from his ego.

The distorted masculine tries to find validation, self worth, and fulfillment in money, sex, accomplishments, etc. Sooner or later, he is going to realize that these things only temporarily satisfy him and that he cannot find true fulfillment in these shallow things.

The Divine Masculine finds self worth in his purpose—the protection of and provision for his Divine Feminine.

But I do not simply mean physical protection, as most seem to believe. That is only the physical manifestation of a deeper spiritual Truth.

The Divine Masculine protects the heart of his feminine. This means protecting her from his ego, because when he reacts to her from ego, her heart is smashed into a million pieces. She believed in him and his King/Emperor self, and he chose the pauper self.

This literally feels like heart break for the Divine Feminine. (This can also be cross-referenced by reading “The Problem is Not Unmet Expectations”.)

The Divine Masculine recognizes that he needs to protect her heart, so that she may keep her heart open. And he naturally wants her heart to be open, because when her heart is open, she is soft, and receptive to him. Not only that, but her open heart is a portal for her intuitive gifts and connection to God. Clearly this is something to be protected!!

If he does not protect her heart from his egoic self, she will be  tempted to shut her heart to him. This disconnection is experienced as heart break for the Masculine, because she will appear cold, shut down, and maybe even angry.

The greatest protection a masculine can provide is protection from his ego, because it is the greatest sacrifice to be asked of any man. But it is his duty, if he is to expect her to keep her heart open to him.

This is the new paradigm in partnership and relationships because it releases us from toxic power struggles.

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All my love to the Divine Partnerships,

Suze

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A Woman Knows How to Love, but Not Who to Love

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Hello Lovely,

I have heard it said, “Women know how to love, but not who to love. Men know who to love, but not how to love”

It’s complicated.

Because it always seems to be complicated when it comes to issues of the heart, love, and relationships, doesn’t it?

Women tend to have a “soft spot” for the man that needs love and healing.  The nurturer inside pulls us to love the other, and the womanly vision picks up on potential.

And as with everything, there is a shadow aspect and a light aspect…

The shadow…

A woman finds herself in relationships with men that need healing and love, and she tries to “fix” them in an effort to feel worthiness inside herself. She has not learned how to simply receive love, so there is a belief that she needs to “earn” love. This fuels the constant “efforting” in the relationship to prove herself worthy of receiving whatever little breadcrumbs of love that she can from the wounded man. This can show up as mothering, enabling, fixing. This woman is controlling, manipulative, critical, and is rigid, tense, and “cold” in her body.

The Light…

This woman has been working on her self love journey and in her light, she attracts in a partnership that meets her right where she is at. But as the relationship deepens and time passes, the wounds of both rise up, triggering and rupturing the relationship. This can also be even more complicated when the woman continues to grow, and the man appears to be growing at a “slower” rate, so misalignment happens frequently, and distresses the woman. She questions the relationship and often receives pressure from friends/outside sources that she should leave the relationship.

To the second woman, in her Light…

What if the journey here is to learn how to deepen the love to a terrifying new depth of intimacy?

What if the next step for expansion is to choose to stay when it often feels like it would be easier to just leave and attract in a new man, at your new level?

What if choosing to keep your heart open is the next opportunity for growth?

What if you could extend your radical healing to your partner?

This feels risky because it is an unfamiliar space, and definitely outside our comfort zones.

So I would like to rephrase “A woman knows how to love” to say that the woman who knows how to Love in the highest sense takes what she has learned with her own self love journey and offers it to her Beloved with humility, grace, and forgiveness, so that he may learn how to Love.

Then, together, they heal the world with their Love.

This is Divine Love.

This is the calling from the heart of the Divine Feminine.

She will know this to be true because her heart always longs for connection. Her heart always opens to her Beloved, and she cannot ignore it.

She knows this to be true because her intuition shows her the vision of what could be. And when she embodies her goddess self and speaks to his god self, her Beloved steps forward towards her, closing the gap between them, and igniting her fire for more connection.

Relationships are not going to heal until we fully commit to them and choose to open our hearts daily to our Love.

Relationships can continue to grow and evolve together, and we don’t have to keep getting stuck in cycles of thinking we have to leave because we have “outgrown” our parter.

The self love journey starts as a focus on the self, but then can turn narcissistic if the Love is not expanded beyond the self to heal the world. 

To be continued…

All my love to the Divine Partnerships,

Suze

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When Relationships End, part 5

Reflection & Conclusion

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we tend to view them as a loss or rejection, which is painful.

Comfort and peace can be accessed when we learn to shift our perspective…
 
What if it is a redirection, back towards authenticity?
 
What if it is an opportunity to expand into the next level of you?
 
Endings also imply a new beginning is now possible.
 
How can I help myself shift into this “new beginning” energy?
 
Endings are a chance to review the relationship, so that you do not continue to repeat the past.
 
What parts of it did work?
 
How did the relationship begin and what was my motivation to commit?
 
Where did I struggle with people pleasing or making myself smaller for the other? (Codependency)
 
What was I attracted to? Am I still attracted to that?
 
At what point did things start to shift towards the ending?
 
How might I respond differently next time?
 
At what point did I start to lose trust in the relationship/start to close my heart down?
 
What patterns am I no longer going to participate in, in the next relationship?
 
What father/masculine wounds presented themselves for healing?
 
What prevented me from healing, while still in the relationship?
 
When relationships end, it is because one or both people decide to stay in their personal comfort level, instead of choosing to open the heart even more to vulnerability and connection, which is also choosing growth.
 
(Again, no judgment! We all get to decide how far we want to go.)
 
You get to choose where you want to go from here.
 
You get to choose to move on and potentially repeat the past.
 
Or
 
You get to choose to intentionally and purposely attract & create something truly authentic that heals you and your partner, and builds a devotion that is fueled by Divine Love.
 
If you found this series helpful, and you are ready to go deeper with your personal relationship story, reach out to discuss 1:1 coaching opinions. 
 
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To start at the beginning of this series, read, “When Relationships End, part 1”.
 
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Suze

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When Relationships End, part 4

Finding Healing

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, it can trigger some trauma responses. 

Even if you haven’t been through divorce, you probably have heard how difficult divorce can be.
 
Any long term or serious relationship ending, whether it involves divorce or not, deeply affects us in the next relationship.
 
And for those of us who do choose to end a relationship with divorce, it often takes a years before we can work up the guts to actually vocalize it and follow through with the divorce.
 
For many of us, we walk away from the relationship with a deep rooted fear of repeating the past and a fear/aversion to committment. We may even become so hyper-focused on this fear that it distorts our view of current situations.
 
Not only does this fear directly affect our personal life moving forward, but we tend to project this fear onto our friends and their relationships.
 
The intention is to protect our friends from experiencing the pains we have experienced, but in so doing, we are actually encouraging them to close down their hearts. The heart is the direct connection to God/Source, so in closing down the heart, they are disconnected from their Truth.
 
I am by no means saying that anyone should stay in an abusive relationship.
 
What I am saying is that there is deep healing that could be offered to us in relationship, but we are blocking ourselves from receiving it, because we are living in the past.
 
Healing is needed.
 
Being in a relationship can offer tremendous healing.
 
I see too much information out there that is creating a “disposable” mindset towards relationships—if you aren’t happy, just move on to the next one.
 
This is blocking our own healing.
 
Clearly this conversation needs discernment, so I am asking anyone who reads this to sit with it before jumping to any judgement.
 
To be continued…
 
You can also start at the beginning of this series by reading, “When Relationships End, part 1”.

Or, to read the next letter in this series, see “When Relationships End, part 5”.
 
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Suze

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When Relationships End, part 3

Refusing To Choose The "Easier" Path

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. This is letter #3 to help you shift your perspective on the whole matter of relationships. 

Having the relationship your heart desires takes a lot of work.
 
A lot of work in being self aware and choosing to keep your heart open.
 
Every time you are choosing to keep your heart open, you are choosing growth.
 
(And as discussed in article #1, “When Relationships End”  , choosing growth is choosing to stay in relationship)
 
Choosing growth is choosing to keep the heart open, because often it is the more scary, and more challenging option.
 
It’s easier to shut down and stay in the smaller reality where everything is familiar.
 
It’s easier to be alone and just not have to deal with it anymore.
 
It’s easier to blame the other and not take responsibility for our own part.
 
It’s easier to see the negative and allow fear to sabotage, instead of focusing on creating more of the positive.
 
It’s easier to do whatever we want to do and not have to collaborate a life with someone else.
 
It’s easier to avoid conflict than to choose to work through it.
 
It may be easier, but it definitely won’t bring the depth of connection that you are longing for.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the previous article in  this series, “When Relationships End, Part 2”.
 
And here is the next article, “When Relationships End, part 4”.
 
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To Your Inner Queen, Warrior, and Goddess,

Suze

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When Relationships End, part 2

The Key To Creating What You Do Want

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. But, as I pointed out in my first Love Letter on “When Relationships End”, the key perspective shift is to see how breakups are simply a matter of a closed heart.

I have learned that keeping an open heart requires radical trust.

Trust in a Source greater and wiser than your humanness.

Trust in a Vision and a Plan that is intended for your highest good.

Trust in your own intuitive “knowings”, and holding the faith that even though you do not have physical “evidence” to back it up.

Trust that you can bring the Vision down into the physical reality.

This is the energy of goddess, aka, Divine Feminine.

She is always looking upward, into heaven.

She keeps her heart open to the guidance she receives from above.

She does not allow herself to get distracted by what her physical situation may appear to be because she knows it is an illusion.

She never doubts the dream/Vision.

She accepts and flows with her intuitive feelings.

She is not afraid to be called “selfish” for her self love practices.

Because…

She knows she is the Oracle.

She knows she is the healer.

She knows she is the inspiration.

She knows she is the co-creator. 

She knows her high value.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the first article in  this series, “When Relationships End”.

Here is the next letter in the series, “When Relationships End, part 3”.
 
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Suze

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When Relationships End

Finding Closure & Peace

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, I think it’s safe to say that we all struggle.

Grief, loss, disappointment, regret, confusion, and hurt run wild.
 
But since I chose to leave my marriage, I have been unraveling the underlying cause of breakups, and it has dramatically changed my perspective of endings.
 
Relationships end because one or both people choose to deny themselves growth.
 
(I do not say this with judgment, because I believe we all get to choose how far we want to go in each lifetime).
 
Growth requires us to keep our heart open.
 
An open heart can feel like too big of a risk.
 
We focus on the scary, unknown, the potential hurt/disappointment and are not able to see the other side of the story.
 
We cannot reach our fullest potential until we learn to keep our hearts open.
 
We cannot have the depth of love & connection that we long for, without an open heart.
 
We cannot find soul-level fulfillment until we prioritize keeping our hearts open.
 
The open heart is the missing link to all we have ever desired to be, or to have.
 
I have so much more to say, but I am leaving it here for now, and will unravel this more, in upcoming posts…
 

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Suze

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What is Makes a Great Relationship

Great Relationships Do Not Just Happen

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Hello Lovely,

What makes a great relationship?

Great relationships don’t just happen.
 
They are built from endless intention, tenacious vision, and unwavering presence.
 
They require you to open your heart, over and over.
 
They demand radical forgiveness, acceptance, and love.
 
They are built from a day-to-day conscious commitment that teaches a new depth of patience and trust.
 
Great relationships don’t happen without obsessive communication.
Communication that is terrifying in its vulnerability.
 
Communication that tests the ability to keep your heart open.
 
Communication that is humble enough to take responsibility for your “mistakes”.
 
Communication that listens to hear the call for love from the other.
 
Great relationships don’t just happen.
 
They come from an endless hunger for more.
 
More Love.
 
More acceptance
 
More healing
 
More stability
 
More understanding
 
More passion
 
More laughter
 
More comfort
 
More intimacy
 
More truth
 
More authenticity
 
Great relationships start by choosing to have a great relationship with yourself first.
 
Because you cannot create outside of you what you have not yet created inside.
 
Choose you. Love you. Forgive you. Accept you. Listen to you. Trust you.
 
Expand yourself and your relationship will expand.

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To Your Inner Queen, Warrior, and Goddess,

Suze

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What is Goddess Energy, part 2

The Oracle of the Divine Feminine

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Hello Lovely,

What is goddess energy? A goddess is a feminine with a clear, open channel, connected to Source, to Love, to the universe.

The struggle to tap into goddess energy is because the channel has become blocked, obstructed, clogged.

The more painful life experiences you have, the more obstructed this channel becomes, because we create mental systems to protect us from repeating our past pain. (Belief systems/stories).

These mental systems then become part of our identity. (More mental limitations).

The more obstructed the channel, the more the heart closes down. (The heart IS the channel).

This “work” of rising into a more powerful and authentic version of ourselves is often seen as overcoming obstacles.

Overcoming is a masculine term. It implies a fight, a climbing over, a resistance.

And yes, when we are opening up to our Truth, there is a resistance from the human aspect of ourselves. We find growth uncomfortable, and the fear of the unknown likes to hold us back.

What if the journey for a feminine is to simply remove the obstacles to open back up the channel?

What if everything is already there, but you are simply blocking it from showing up?

What if you cannot see the Love because the view is blocked?

The channel (heart) must be open and clear to feel the connection and love that we so deeply crave.

It is in the state of nothingness, that we can be everything.

It is in the state of limitlessness that we feel total freedom.

It is in the state of total openness, that anything is possible.

The open heart is the portal between the physical and spiritual.

Open up to receive miracles, awaken your inner goddess, and live a life of magic.

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My Love Letter to the Strong, Powerful Women of the World

The Goddess Inside

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Hello Lovely,
I am really passionate about opening hearts, so today, I decided to write a love letter to the strong, powerful women of the world.

Sometimes being a “strong, powerful woman” means…

Choosing to be vulnerable when you are scared.
 
Choosing to stay, when you have a history of running.
 
Choosing to let people in, when for decades, you have kept others at arm’s length.
 
Choosing to commit when you are more comfortable with independence.
 
Choosing to soften and open your heart when you are triggered or in conflict.
 
Choosing to feel all the feelings when previously, you would numb out, shut down, deny, and ignore.
 
Choosing to be curious, instead of critical.
 
Choosing to surrender and trust, instead of needing to be in control.
 
Choosing to hold space for yourself in the darkest of emotions, especially when no one else is capable of going into the abyss with you.
 
Choosing to remain quiet instead of defending yourself.
 
Choosing to forgive when the offender never asks for it.
 
Choosing humility and empathy instead of judgment and harshness.
 
Being a “strong, powerful woman” is not always about having the “I am woman, hear me roar” attitude.
 
Sometimes it is choosing softness, openness, humility, love, acceptance, gentleness, and tenderness.
 
If this is you, I see you.
 
I honor you.
 
I celebrate you.
 
Do not stop opening your heart.
 
If you are ready to soften and surrender even more and need support, click on the link below to connect with me. 
 
Lovingly,

Suze

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