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When Relationships End, part 5

Reflection & Conclusion

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we tend to view them as a loss or rejection, which is painful.

Comfort and peace can be accessed when we learn to shift our perspective…
 
What if it is a redirection, back towards authenticity?
 
What if it is an opportunity to expand into the next level of you?
 
Endings also imply a new beginning is now possible.
 
How can I help myself shift into this “new beginning” energy?
 
Endings are a chance to review the relationship, so that you do not continue to repeat the past.
 
What parts of it did work?
 
How did the relationship begin and what was my motivation to commit?
 
Where did I struggle with people pleasing or making myself smaller for the other? (Codependency)
 
What was I attracted to? Am I still attracted to that?
 
At what point did things start to shift towards the ending?
 
How might I respond differently next time?
 
At what point did I start to lose trust in the relationship/start to close my heart down?
 
What patterns am I no longer going to participate in, in the next relationship?
 
What father/masculine wounds presented themselves for healing?
 
What prevented me from healing, while still in the relationship?
 
When relationships end, it is because one or both people decide to stay in their personal comfort level, instead of choosing to open the heart even more to vulnerability and connection, which is also choosing growth.
 
(Again, no judgment! We all get to decide how far we want to go.)
 
You get to choose where you want to go from here.
 
You get to choose to move on and potentially repeat the past.
 
Or
 
You get to choose to intentionally and purposely attract & create something truly authentic that heals you and your partner, and builds a devotion that is fueled by Divine Love.
 
If you found this series helpful, and you are ready to go deeper with your personal relationship story, reach out to discuss 1:1 coaching opinions. 
 
You can also read about my 3 levels of feminine energy coaching by clicking the link below.
 
To start at the beginning of this series, read, “When Relationships End, part 1”.
 
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Suze

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When Relationships End, part 4

Finding Healing

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, it can trigger some trauma responses. 

Even if you haven’t been through divorce, you probably have heard how difficult divorce can be.
 
Any long term or serious relationship ending, whether it involves divorce or not, deeply affects us in the next relationship.
 
And for those of us who do choose to end a relationship with divorce, it often takes a years before we can work up the guts to actually vocalize it and follow through with the divorce.
 
For many of us, we walk away from the relationship with a deep rooted fear of repeating the past and a fear/aversion to committment. We may even become so hyper-focused on this fear that it distorts our view of current situations.
 
Not only does this fear directly affect our personal life moving forward, but we tend to project this fear onto our friends and their relationships.
 
The intention is to protect our friends from experiencing the pains we have experienced, but in so doing, we are actually encouraging them to close down their hearts. The heart is the direct connection to God/Source, so in closing down the heart, they are disconnected from their Truth.
 
I am by no means saying that anyone should stay in an abusive relationship.
 
What I am saying is that there is deep healing that could be offered to us in relationship, but we are blocking ourselves from receiving it, because we are living in the past.
 
Healing is needed.
 
Being in a relationship can offer tremendous healing.
 
I see too much information out there that is creating a “disposable” mindset towards relationships—if you aren’t happy, just move on to the next one.
 
This is blocking our own healing.
 
Clearly this conversation needs discernment, so I am asking anyone who reads this to sit with it before jumping to any judgement.
 
To be continued…
 
You can also start at the beginning of this series by reading, “When Relationships End, part 1”.

Or, to read the next letter in this series, see “When Relationships End, part 5”.
 
And if you found this article helpful and would like to learn more about my coaching, click the link below. 

And reach out when you are ready to begin.

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When Relationships End, part 3

Refusing To Choose The "Easier" Path

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. This is letter #3 to help you shift your perspective on the whole matter of relationships. 

Having the relationship your heart desires takes a lot of work.
 
A lot of work in being self aware and choosing to keep your heart open.
 
Every time you are choosing to keep your heart open, you are choosing growth.
 
(And as discussed in article #1, “When Relationships End”  , choosing growth is choosing to stay in relationship)
 
Choosing growth is choosing to keep the heart open, because often it is the more scary, and more challenging option.
 
It’s easier to shut down and stay in the smaller reality where everything is familiar.
 
It’s easier to be alone and just not have to deal with it anymore.
 
It’s easier to blame the other and not take responsibility for our own part.
 
It’s easier to see the negative and allow fear to sabotage, instead of focusing on creating more of the positive.
 
It’s easier to do whatever we want to do and not have to collaborate a life with someone else.
 
It’s easier to avoid conflict than to choose to work through it.
 
It may be easier, but it definitely won’t bring the depth of connection that you are longing for.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the previous article in  this series, “When Relationships End, Part 2”.
 
And here is the next article, “When Relationships End, part 4”.
 
And if you found this article helpful and would like to learn more about my coaching, click the link below. 

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Suze

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When Relationships End, part 2

The Key To Creating What You Do Want

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. But, as I pointed out in my first Love Letter on “When Relationships End”, the key perspective shift is to see how breakups are simply a matter of a closed heart.

I have learned that keeping an open heart requires radical trust.

Trust in a Source greater and wiser than your humanness.

Trust in a Vision and a Plan that is intended for your highest good.

Trust in your own intuitive “knowings”, and holding the faith that even though you do not have physical “evidence” to back it up.

Trust that you can bring the Vision down into the physical reality.

This is the energy of goddess, aka, Divine Feminine.

She is always looking upward, into heaven.

She keeps her heart open to the guidance she receives from above.

She does not allow herself to get distracted by what her physical situation may appear to be because she knows it is an illusion.

She never doubts the dream/Vision.

She accepts and flows with her intuitive feelings.

She is not afraid to be called “selfish” for her self love practices.

Because…

She knows she is the Oracle.

She knows she is the healer.

She knows she is the inspiration.

She knows she is the co-creator. 

She knows her high value.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the first article in  this series, “When Relationships End”.

Here is the next letter in the series, “When Relationships End, part 3”.
 
And if you found this article helpful and would like to learn more about my coaching, click the link below. 

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Suze

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When Relationships End

Finding Closure & Peace

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, I think it’s safe to say that we all struggle.

Grief, loss, disappointment, regret, confusion, and hurt run wild.
 
But since I chose to leave my marriage, I have been unraveling the underlying cause of breakups, and it has dramatically changed my perspective of endings.
 
Relationships end because one or both people choose to deny themselves growth.
 
(I do not say this with judgment, because I believe we all get to choose how far we want to go in each lifetime).
 
Growth requires us to keep our heart open.
 
An open heart can feel like too big of a risk.
 
We focus on the scary, unknown, the potential hurt/disappointment and are not able to see the other side of the story.
 
We cannot reach our fullest potential until we learn to keep our hearts open.
 
We cannot have the depth of love & connection that we long for, without an open heart.
 
We cannot find soul-level fulfillment until we prioritize keeping our hearts open.
 
The open heart is the missing link to all we have ever desired to be, or to have.
 
I have so much more to say, but I am leaving it here for now, and will unravel this more, in upcoming posts…
 

If you found this article helpful and would like to learn more about my coaching, click the link below. 

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Suze

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