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Hello, Lovely,
You must know what to expect from a man when dating if you are determined to have a deeply connected and aligned partnership with a masculine man.

When my marriage ended, I knew I did not want to repeat what had happened in the marriage. I was very clear on what kind of man that I wanted to be with, and what my next relationship would look like. I told myself that I would rather be alone, than with someone who wasn’t exactly what I wanted.

I had already done a lot of work with myself to heal and lean into my femininity, and I knew that I wanted to be with an awakened masculine man. (Please reference “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine” to clearly understand what I am referring to.)

If you resonate with what I am saying here, then this list will really help you stay on track.

Here is what to expect from a man when dating:

Consistent effort. Consistency is huge here. As women, we need to feel emotional and physically safe with our man. If a man is not showing up consistently with clear effort to make you feel important, he is not the man for you. If he cannot be consistent and clear with his intentions in the beginning, he will not be able to create emotional safety for you in a committed relationship. A man who truly sees you and wants you WILL make time for you and will prioritize you, no matter what is going on in his life.
Clear and open communication. This supports point #1. A masculine man will know the importance of good communication, and will do his best to make sure you feel good at all times. There is no need for you to chase him around, trying to get him to talk to you, because you feel insecure or unsure about something.
Conscious leadership and presence. The kind of masculine man that you desire will desire to lead you. He will want to support you, help you, and do whatever he can to make sure you feel happy and safe. He will show you that he is “tuned in” to you, listening to you, and fully present with you when you are together. He will WANT to lead.

You cannot attract a masculine partner if you are the one leading the relationship along and being in your masculine energy. Check out “What To Know When Dating A Masculine.”

Lean back and let the man show you what he is made of. Make him prove that he is worthy of YOU. This is what to expect from a man when dating.

If you found value in this article, I recommend “What Not To Do When You Are Dating.” I have found that it is easy for women to be in “chaser” energy, without being fully aware of it. I wrote this article to help clear some of that.

And if you are ready to get really clear on attracting the man and relationship you want, click the link below to read more on my 1:1 coaching.

Warmly,
Suze

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Finding The Relationship You Want

Hello, Lovely,
What not to do when you are dating is such a huge topic in my 1:1 coaching right now. Women are realizing that they want more in their relationships, and that they want men to show up in a powerful and clear way.

We have discovered that our dissatisfaction in previous relationships is due to being with men who were not in their masculine energy. (For more on understanding this, check out “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”.)

So, if you fall in the category of awakened women who desire a very masculine man for partnership, you need to know what not to do when you are dating. (To be clear on awakened women, please reference, “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”.)

Clearly, if you are looking to attract something different than what you have had in your past, you are going to have to show up differently!

What not to do when you are dating is really simple.

Stop reaching out, texting, and calling the man. Stop initiating. This is all masculine energy. If you are the one with masculine energy, it is impossible for the man to show up with the masculine energy you say you desire. How a relationship starts determines how the relationship will play out. Let him reach out and initiate contact.
Stop making plans. Let him make the plans and ask you to join him. Your presence is an honor. Make him ask for it to show you that he values you, your time, and your presence.
Stop asking to talk. If you are not in a committed relationship, it is your responsibility to see what is happening to cause insecurity within yourself. Notice what is bubbling up inside yourself. What needs are not being met, and is he capable of meeting these needs? Or is this an old, codependent habit that needs to be released? You may like to read “Am I In A Codependent Relationship?” A man who has done his work in awareness will sense when something is “off” and will initiate a conversation to make sure to make sure you feel safe and secure.
Stop ignoring your energetic responses to him. Does he make you feel heavy or light? Does he make you feel comfortable or nervous? The man who is good for you will make you feel light, comfortable, and safe.

You cannot attract a masculine partner if you are the one leading the relationship along and being in your masculine energy.

Lean back and let the man show you what he is made of. Make him prove that he is worthy of YOU.

If you are ready to get really clear on attracting the man and relationship you want, click the link below to read more on my 1:1 coaching.

Warmly,
Suze

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