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Your Capacity to Hold Space & Radical Acceptance

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your capacity to hold space & radical acceptance

Hello, Lovely,
Your capacity to hold space and radical acceptance are intricately linked and connected for your healing. 

In my FB group, Inhale Love, I have been talking a lot about the capacity of holding—holding big emotions and feeling through trauma responses.

The extent of your capacity to hold these big things is directly proportional to the extent of the healing that you will be able to access in this moment and, therefore, the degree of wholeness that you will be able to feel and embody.

This is clearly a huge deal.

So today, I would love to share some insights around the capacity of holding & radical acceptance.

Because without radical acceptance, you will not be able to hold as much as you would like.

Acceptance.

It is the state of releasing any judgment, any attempts to control, any manipulation, and need to “fix”, and wishing that things were any different.

This is a lot easier said than done.

But think about it—when you are venting to a friend, a lot of times this is exactly what you are looking for. A safe space to let all the “crazy” out. You don’t want her to try to change you. You don’t want criticism. You don’t necessarily want her to tell you what to do (unless you ask for it). You just need to get it all out and feel seen, heard, and loved.

So why don’t we do this within ourselves?

Why do we run, hide, deny, or escape our inner emotional chaos?

What might be possible if we decided to create a safe internal space for it all to feel seen and heard?

It is possible to find peace in the middle of pain.

But it’s only possible once we find acceptance.

Acceptance is found when we release the need to control, change, or fix something.

It is a choice to VALIDATE whatever feelings are bubbling up.

It is an irony, because in becoming aware of the feelings and fully seeing/validating them, we are able to choose to release them, in order to come back to our peaceful center. 

We can then drop into the present moment to find reassurance and beauty around us.

To strengthen your capacity to hold space and radical acceptance, you must blatantly and sometimes painfully be honest with yourself and your current experience, without trying to change a thing. 

This allows for freedom from shame–shame that is placed on women for experiencing “negative” emotions.

Choose to love and validate your feelings to stop the cycle of shaming emotional awareness and availability. 

Choose to find peace in the storm.

Choose to release, when you are ready.

Choose wholeness.

Choose healing.

Choose the queen, goddess, warrior inside you. 

For more on the subject of holding space for your emotions, join my FB group, Inhale Love, or check out my other blogs on the subject.

If you are ready for deep support and guidance on your personal empowerment journey, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

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Lovingly,
Suze

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Open To Receive

Receive Your Heart's Desires

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Being open to receive is a state of being that is a cornerstone of feminine energy.
 
But receiving is a lot harder than it may seem, for some of us. 
 
I wrote about this in my public blog today, “3 Reasons Why It Is Hard To Receive”. 
 
In the 3 reasons, I talked about the need for healing both your masculine and feminine energies and referenced 2 other public blogs, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”. 
 
But let’s get deeper here in The Love Nest into the state of receiving. 
 
We have been conditioned in this lifetime that we need to work hard to make our lives turn out the way we want them to.
 
We have to give, to sacrifice, to do, in order to achieve the life we think we want. 
 
But for those of us on the feminine journey, we are choosing to no longer allow the things that feel heavy, hard, and exhausting. We want lives that feel really good, blissful, light, flowing, and free. 
 
To access a life that feels like that, we must learn to let go, lean back, and receive.
 
All that we desire is right there–we just have to allow it to flow in.
 
We must remove the blockages that are not allowing us to receive. 
 
In allowing this state of being, we are able to relax into our lives and our relationships. 
 
Our men then have the space to step forward and show up with the masculinity that we desire. This was a huge shift for me. After my marriage ended, I knew that my next relationship dynamic was going to be very different. I was very clear that I wanted a man who would take the lead and be powerful in his masculinity. I wanted him to be the one to figure the things out, plan the things, do the things, fix the things. 
 
What I have learned is that in order for a man to show up in that way, I must be totally open to receive his ideas, his perspectives, and his possibilities. I must let go of the “need” to control every little thing. 
 
Perfectionism had to go to allow relaxation and ease.
 
Why?
 
Because you must be relaxed to allow yourself to be open.
 
You cannot receive a gift with clenched, closed fists. You must relax and open your hands to receive a gift. 
 
You cannot be close-minded about how something is “supposed” to look or be done, if you are to receive the gifts that the man wants to give. 
 
Masculine men DESIRE to give, to make us happy, to fix, to do. 
 
We must allow them to give. 
 
We must stop blocking them from this giving. 
 
We must learn to be open to receive.
 
This also applies to our lives, in general. If you are here, you probably share my beliefs around spirituality and Universe/Source/God/Love. 
 
In developing a state of being open to receive, we are deepening our connection to Universe/Source/God/Love.
 
Being open to receive means that we trust that everything is working out for us and that we surrender and receive the gifts. 
 
We look for the gifts and lessons when things feel challenging.
 
We turn these moments into empowerment.
 
This empowerment then opens us up to receive even more. 
 
We choose the life we want, by deciding how we want our lives to FEEL, and then aligning with those energies.
 
From the alignment, our physical reality aligns up with our inner state of being.
 
We receive the physical manifestations and blessings that we desire. 
 
So now that I have shown you that being open to receive is the most magical state to be in, let me leave you with step 1 in learning to be open.
 
You must relax.
 
I know, I know…telling someone they need to relax is psychologically counteractive. 
 
Start with your physical body, because feeling anything in your physical body first makes it easier to translate into the metaphysical world. 
 
Take breaks in your day to open your hands and spread your fingers wide. Unclench your jaw. Pull your shoulders straight back and notice how it opens your chest/heart. Lift your gaze to the heavens, and spread your arms open wide.
 
Breathe deeply with all parts of your body open. 
 
You can also practice open body and relaxation by lying in your bed, and intentionally relaxing every fiber of your being. Really feel your bed underneath you and develop a sense of “melting” into your bed. Notice how it feels like you are releasing energy that is weighing you down.
 
This is how it feels to be open to receive.
 
Bring these feelings into your life. Let go of controlling every little thing and “needing” everything to be perfect. 
 
Release the “need” to “get it right.” 
 
Allow yourself to get messy and just sit back and see what happens.
 
Be sure to check out journal prompts #10 for questions to help deepen this practice of being open.  

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Softness & Surrender

The Art of Being A Woman

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We must deeply understand what it means to surrender and be soft, if we desire to feel powerful and peaceful in our lives and decisions. 
 

We must embody the art of softness & surrender in order to open our vision to see possibilities that we hadn’t seen before.

We must allow softness & surrender to become the new habit that empowers us to create our lives, instead of reacting to them. 

We must soften into the pain to be able to release it and feel the power in acknowledging it and choosing to let it go. 

It is in all this CHOOSING to soften and surrender, instead of reacting in the old, coping mechanisms that we start to feel our power. 

So, putting it really simply, what it is means to surrender is this…

Surrender is the art of learning to be at peace with what currently is, while still knowing where you are going. 

Surrender means that you accept what you currently see with your human eyes. 

You do not run or hide from the reality of it.

You do not give in to coping mechanisms that you picked up from a lower self awareness. 

You soften into the pain that you might be experiencing in the present moment.

You know that there is a secret gift somewhere in it, that you want to uncover. 

This gift is deeper self awareness, self love, self acceptance, self empowerment. 

But to access this…first, softness & surrender.

Surrender to what is. Stop fighting. Stop resisting. Stop your survival mode.  

Then comes step two…

Know where you are going.

Look beyond what currently know. Rest assured in knowing that your current scenario is simply old energy that is manifesting. 

You are no longer in this place. You are energetically in another state, and you are simply waiting for the human experience to catch up with your actual energetic state. 

Don’t be fooled by what your human eyes or human mind is telling you about the present moment. 

Soften & surrender to it. Accept it, and then shift your focus to where you are going.

It is coming.

Hold the faith.

Hold the higher energy.

Hold the patience. 

The softness & surrender will allow you to either be inspired by a new possibility that you had not seen before, or you will attract in a new opportunity that was never available to you before, in your lower state of reaction. 

The better life is unfolding for you. Soften into the process.

Relax your tight grip on timelines.

Soften.

Surrender.

Feel.

Become the higher You. 

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