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What To Know When You Feel Tired & Alone

Discipline or Devotion?

what to know when you feel tired & alone

Hello, Lovely,

What to know when you feel tired & alone feels so relevant right now.
 
Many of us have been in a deeply challenging cycle for a few years now, and we are starting to crack under the pressure and the passing of time, with no “relief”. 
 
Since I am a firm believer in the concept of “nothing changes if nothing changes,” I have decided to do things a little differently this year.
 
I have been carefully going through all the invitations that I receive, and feeling into what is truly in alignment with ME, before accepting.
 
And most recently, I have been shown my next steps for expansion for this year.
 
I am choosing to do that differently, too.
 
I invite you to consider two words with me…
 
Discipline & Devotion
 
I used to live a life of discipline.
 
I was told that my “superpower” was showing up, regardless of how badly my world was falling apart. But I ultimately found that this was me, denying myself my needs and living in fear of loss.
 
I used to hustle and take pride in making sure I checked off ALL the things off my very extensive list each day. This lead me to total burnout, resentment, and disappointment.
 
I showed up consistently and “powerfully”, even when it was killing me inside.
 
I made sure I was seen, everyday, and in every possible way. But hiding under the surface of this, was an energy of desperately trying to prove myself and chasing “success”.
 
I had previously spent a lot of my life people pleasing and not letting myself to seen, so I was determined to finally be seen and heard.
 
But in the intense fire that I have been living in for the past 2 years, I have learned something that some are afraid to see..
 
Sometimes NOT being seen is the more powerful stance, because you are choosing to see YOURSELF, and not needing anyone else to validate that seeing.
 
Sometimes choosing to rest is more important than being perceived as “powerful,” because you are moving with the challenges of your current life, and supporting the needs of your human, even though your fearful mind is afraid of failing in your business.
 
Sometimes choosing prayerful patience and releasing expectations around time is the lesson to be learned, because incredible suffering can be found when we are in a “wait” period, and the things we desire are coming in slowly.
 
That one is a big one. There is a lot of shaming that can happen when our manifestations are taking longer than we “think” they “should” be.
 
What to know when you feel tired & alone is that some of us are not meant to be pushing, grinding away.
 
Some of us are meant to live a life that very few understand.
 
Some of us are called to softness and surrender at a depth that appears (at first glance) to be counterproductive.
 
Some of us are called to live a life of prayerful, mindful, intentional love and softness.
 
Some of us feel more aligned with prayerfulness and patience.
 
This is how devotion feels to me.
 
Devotion is a labor of love.
 
Devotion is endlessly patient.
 
Devotion never gives up.
 
Devotion requires an unwavering trust in universe.
 
Devotion requires a releasing of self doubt.
 
It loves and flows with the present moment, while still gently focused on where it is ultimately going.
 
This is the life that I feel called to live and show that is possible.
 
Devotion is loving yourself and your unique journey so deeply that you release ALL the noise of the outside world, and tune in exclusively to the song of your soul.
 
What to know when you feel tired & alone is that maybe you are trying too hard and need to soften into what it. 
 
Devote yourself to softening to the process and release the time element that is causing you to doubt yourself and your ability to have your heart’s desires. 
 
I choose devotion.
 
I choose softness.
 
I choose Love.

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Lovingly,
Suze

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The Truth About Softness

Finding Expansion & Integration

the truth about softness

Hello, Lovely,
The Truth about softness is that it is highly underestimated.

Silence can be far more powerful than aggressive noise, because it is often the less expected response—far more unusual, and far more different.

It is the things in life that are different that grab our attention the most; that stop us dead in our tracks; that make us stop and look.

Softness can be a woman’s most powerful weapon because it has the potential of completely disarming a man to the extent that he lets down the armor around his heart and falls to his knees to surrender his heart to a woman, utterly devoting himself to her, her happiness, and her pleasure.

The Truth about softness is that it is highly under-embodied.

The Truth about softness is that it can reveal a woman’s deepest, most vulnerable Truth to herself—that she holds the power to heal, to connect, to create, and attract whatever she desires.

Softness calms and allows for safety because it is non-threatening and radically accepting.

Softness heals because it is non-judgmental, empathetic, and compassionate.

Softness attracts because it is open and welcoming.

Softness connects because it is vulnerable.

Softness creates because it intuitively collaborates and nurtures.

The Truth About Softness is that, when used wisely, is a woman’s strongest weapon.

To access this weapon requires healing  your inner wounded masculine and feminine energies, and then integrating both of them together. To learn more about that, I invite you to read from my Love Letters, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”.

If you are ready for deep support and guidance on realizing and embodying your Truth and softness, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

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Lovingly,
Suze

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Open To Receive

Receive Your Heart's Desires

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Being open to receive is a state of being that is a cornerstone of feminine energy.
 
But receiving is a lot harder than it may seem, for some of us. 
 
I wrote about this in my public blog today, “3 Reasons Why It Is Hard To Receive”. 
 
In the 3 reasons, I talked about the need for healing both your masculine and feminine energies and referenced 2 other public blogs, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”. 
 
But let’s get deeper here in The Love Nest into the state of receiving. 
 
We have been conditioned in this lifetime that we need to work hard to make our lives turn out the way we want them to.
 
We have to give, to sacrifice, to do, in order to achieve the life we think we want. 
 
But for those of us on the feminine journey, we are choosing to no longer allow the things that feel heavy, hard, and exhausting. We want lives that feel really good, blissful, light, flowing, and free. 
 
To access a life that feels like that, we must learn to let go, lean back, and receive.
 
All that we desire is right there–we just have to allow it to flow in.
 
We must remove the blockages that are not allowing us to receive. 
 
In allowing this state of being, we are able to relax into our lives and our relationships. 
 
Our men then have the space to step forward and show up with the masculinity that we desire. This was a huge shift for me. After my marriage ended, I knew that my next relationship dynamic was going to be very different. I was very clear that I wanted a man who would take the lead and be powerful in his masculinity. I wanted him to be the one to figure the things out, plan the things, do the things, fix the things. 
 
What I have learned is that in order for a man to show up in that way, I must be totally open to receive his ideas, his perspectives, and his possibilities. I must let go of the “need” to control every little thing. 
 
Perfectionism had to go to allow relaxation and ease.
 
Why?
 
Because you must be relaxed to allow yourself to be open.
 
You cannot receive a gift with clenched, closed fists. You must relax and open your hands to receive a gift. 
 
You cannot be close-minded about how something is “supposed” to look or be done, if you are to receive the gifts that the man wants to give. 
 
Masculine men DESIRE to give, to make us happy, to fix, to do. 
 
We must allow them to give. 
 
We must stop blocking them from this giving. 
 
We must learn to be open to receive.
 
This also applies to our lives, in general. If you are here, you probably share my beliefs around spirituality and Universe/Source/God/Love. 
 
In developing a state of being open to receive, we are deepening our connection to Universe/Source/God/Love.
 
Being open to receive means that we trust that everything is working out for us and that we surrender and receive the gifts. 
 
We look for the gifts and lessons when things feel challenging.
 
We turn these moments into empowerment.
 
This empowerment then opens us up to receive even more. 
 
We choose the life we want, by deciding how we want our lives to FEEL, and then aligning with those energies.
 
From the alignment, our physical reality aligns up with our inner state of being.
 
We receive the physical manifestations and blessings that we desire. 
 
So now that I have shown you that being open to receive is the most magical state to be in, let me leave you with step 1 in learning to be open.
 
You must relax.
 
I know, I know…telling someone they need to relax is psychologically counteractive. 
 
Start with your physical body, because feeling anything in your physical body first makes it easier to translate into the metaphysical world. 
 
Take breaks in your day to open your hands and spread your fingers wide. Unclench your jaw. Pull your shoulders straight back and notice how it opens your chest/heart. Lift your gaze to the heavens, and spread your arms open wide.
 
Breathe deeply with all parts of your body open. 
 
You can also practice open body and relaxation by lying in your bed, and intentionally relaxing every fiber of your being. Really feel your bed underneath you and develop a sense of “melting” into your bed. Notice how it feels like you are releasing energy that is weighing you down.
 
This is how it feels to be open to receive.
 
Bring these feelings into your life. Let go of controlling every little thing and “needing” everything to be perfect. 
 
Release the “need” to “get it right.” 
 
Allow yourself to get messy and just sit back and see what happens.
 
Be sure to check out journal prompts #10 for questions to help deepen this practice of being open.  

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Softness & Surrender

The Art of Being A Woman

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We must deeply understand what it means to surrender and be soft, if we desire to feel powerful and peaceful in our lives and decisions. 
 

We must embody the art of softness & surrender in order to open our vision to see possibilities that we hadn’t seen before.

We must allow softness & surrender to become the new habit that empowers us to create our lives, instead of reacting to them. 

We must soften into the pain to be able to release it and feel the power in acknowledging it and choosing to let it go. 

It is in all this CHOOSING to soften and surrender, instead of reacting in the old, coping mechanisms that we start to feel our power. 

So, putting it really simply, what it is means to surrender is this…

Surrender is the art of learning to be at peace with what currently is, while still knowing where you are going. 

Surrender means that you accept what you currently see with your human eyes. 

You do not run or hide from the reality of it.

You do not give in to coping mechanisms that you picked up from a lower self awareness. 

You soften into the pain that you might be experiencing in the present moment.

You know that there is a secret gift somewhere in it, that you want to uncover. 

This gift is deeper self awareness, self love, self acceptance, self empowerment. 

But to access this…first, softness & surrender.

Surrender to what is. Stop fighting. Stop resisting. Stop your survival mode.  

Then comes step two…

Know where you are going.

Look beyond what currently know. Rest assured in knowing that your current scenario is simply old energy that is manifesting. 

You are no longer in this place. You are energetically in another state, and you are simply waiting for the human experience to catch up with your actual energetic state. 

Don’t be fooled by what your human eyes or human mind is telling you about the present moment. 

Soften & surrender to it. Accept it, and then shift your focus to where you are going.

It is coming.

Hold the faith.

Hold the higher energy.

Hold the patience. 

The softness & surrender will allow you to either be inspired by a new possibility that you had not seen before, or you will attract in a new opportunity that was never available to you before, in your lower state of reaction. 

The better life is unfolding for you. Soften into the process.

Relax your tight grip on timelines.

Soften.

Surrender.

Feel.

Become the higher You. 

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How To Be Soft in A Hard World

Foundations of Surrender

how to be soft in a hard world

Hello, Lovely,
Knowing how to be soft in a hard world is absolutely necessary, if you desire to be a creator of your life, instead of reacting to what life dishes out to you.

It is from this softness that we are able to open up and receive from God/Source/Universe. 

It is from the softness that we grow a deep trust in the process and timing of our healing and expansion.

It is from this softness that we are able to feel connection with ourselves, others, and all that is around us. 

It is from this softness that we are able to rest and find relief from the world and the challenges of life.

It is from this softness that we attract the relationships that we so deeply desire.

So here are my basic steps in how to be soft in a hard world:

  1. Be very aware of the physical signs when you are drifting away from soft. Notice when you clench your jaw, close your hands, or feel tightness and rigidity anywhere in your body. Take a break to slow down and relax your body.
  2. Take deep breathing breaks. Bringing breathwork into my life has been a huge tool and support system for myself in choosing to be soft. Feel the breath moving in and out of your body. Focus intently on how it feels to expand and contract with the flow of air. Allow the movement to soften your body, relax any overthinking, and cleanse your energy.
  3. Learn the art of surrender. I wrote a blog on this yesterday, “What It Means To Surrender”.
  4. Slow down and stop rushing. Build transition breaks into your schedule. In these little buffers of time, move your body, shake out any stress from the previous activity, clear and ground yourself before you enter the next segment of your day. Create an intention of being fresh, clear, and open to possibility in your next activity. 

These are just the basics to get you started in the direction of knowing how to be soft in a hard world. You may also find value in my blog, “How to Stay Rooted in Love”. 

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Warmly,
Suze

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