Foundations for Feminine Empowerment
Hello, Lovely,
I’ve been going back to the basics with a lot of my coaching, and so, today, I would love to share my thoughts on how to create boundaries.
If you have a story like mine, and you are a recovering co-dependent, you are going to struggle with setting boundaries and maybe even think that you are being “mean” by setting boundaries.
First, let me share a perspective shift around boundaries that started changing everything for me with creating boundaries.
Boundaries really have nothing to do with the other person. You aren’t actually pushing someone away, or being “mean” to someone. Creating/setting boundaries is entirely about protecting yourself from you–the people pleaser/co-dependent you.
Keep that in mind as we work through this process.
- Once you have recognized that a boundary needs to be created with someone, you must be willing to take responsibility for it. Communicate that you feel uncomfortable with the issue at hand. Use “I” statements, and avoid pointing the finger at the other person with “you” statements.
- State what YOU are going to do to set the boundary. Are you going to end the conversation? Are you going to walk away? Do not expect the other person to do something to create the space and boundary. YOU decide what happens, and you honor yourself by following through on it.
Remember that I said you are protecting yourself from you. You are creating space for yourself so that you can calm and center yourself. You are taking responsibility for your emotions and your actions. How the other person reacts is none of your business.
Creating space for yourself to heal and nurture yourself is super important. You may also like to read another one of my Love Letters, “Why Creating Space Is Everything”
Knowing how to create boundaries is something that may feel a little weird at first, but will become something that helps you stop feeling stuck, powerless, guilty, and/or shamed. That is freedom from co-dependency!
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Warmly,
Suze