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Who Am I?

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Hello, Lovely,
Years ago, I found a little voice inside me asking, “Who am I?” This voice got louder and louder until I couldn’t ignore it anymore and I was willing to change radically and try things I had never done before to find the answer. 

It was the beginning of my life because I was finally actually living life by my own rules, instead of the ones that had been imposed upon me. I was sick and tired of doing all the things I was “supposed” to do, because it did NOT bring me the happiness that I had been promised. 

Taking the steps to answer this question requires you to throw out a lot of old things. You must forget what you have been told previously in order to listen to what is your truth. No one knows you better than you.

You must be willing to slow down and listen to any little “nudge” that you feel to move in any direction. This requires releasing any judgment, or any assumption, or any belief about how something is, or how you are going to feel about it. You never know until you try something how it will actually feel to you. Anything that comes across your path and you feel a sense of curiosity about it, try it! 

You must allow yourself to remember those things that used to interest you or excite you when you were younger. As we get older, we tend to “give up” on the things that we used to want because life becomes hard. Life may seem like it “teaches” us that those things we thought we wanted when we were younger or the things that we used to like are “unrealistic” or “childish.” Sometimes we tell ourselves that we “don’t have time for that anymore.” But these things are the clues, the breadcrumbs, that lead you back to who you are. 

You already know who you are, you just have forgotten, because, life. 

Whatever comes up, whatever you realize, whatever you see, no matter how painful, choose to keep going. You are choosing you. It doesn’t have to all make sense yet, but there will come a time when it definitely will. 

As you follow this, you will start to really get excited about the things that feel really good and you will start to feel empowered and clear to create a life that feels deeply authentic. 

This is when confidence starts kicking in, and it may feel a little easier to keep going. 

Answering the question, “Who am I?” is challenging, yet deeply rewarding work. It is the first step that will lead you to knowing exactly what you actually want in your life. This clarity will then enable you to focus on magnetizing what you want into your life. 

I am currently opening enrollment into my 8-week program that will guide you step-by-step into this process of having what you want. It all begins with you choosing to Be Your Own Ultimate Lover. 

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Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine

Foundations for Conscious Partnerships

the wounded feminine and the awakened feminine

Hello, Lovely,
It has been exciting for me to watch women waking up over the past few years, and I feel that we really need to have a clear view of the wounded feminine and the awakened feminine if we are to grow into the women that we desire to be and have the lives our souls are calling us to. 

The wounded feminine is the woman who has not yet had the healing she deeply needs. She struggles with low self worth, people-pleasing, codependency, lack of boundaries, over-giving, self sacrificing, and shutting down/running away.She does not have a clear knowing of what she wants. She varies between not speaking up for herself, and exploding with anger/overwhelm. She often feels chaotic, overwhelmed, ungrounded, unsafe, frantic, and anxious. She does not practice self acceptance, so she is constantly feeling into others and needing validation and acceptance from those around her. She is constantly in a state of reacting to life, instead of creating her life. 

 She finds her value in her relationships, instead of knowing her own, inherent value. This causes her to settle for a life that ultimately makes her feel heavy, exhausted, resentful, purposeless, overwhelmed, confused, dissatisfied, and often, depressed.

The awakened feminine is doing her healing work and is always looking for growth and expansion. She is crystal clear on what she wants and what is unacceptable to her. She communicates vulnerably and powerfully to create connection, or to set and maintain boundaries. She takes responsibility for herself so that she feels powerful enough to create the life she desires. She knows how to create a safe space for herself to see and feel deeply. She knows her value and has no tolerance for anyone who does not treat her accordingly. She trust her intuition intensely and does not need any outside validation. She feels calm, stable, clear, knowing, and open. She embodies her queen, goddess, and warrior energies to feel free, confident, and fully empowered. She is actively creating her life, and being led by her soul. 

She would rather be alone than in relationships that do not value her. This allows her to attract a soul connection with an awakened masculine where they create a deeply conscious partnership that grows together and feels incredibly harmonious.

Understanding the wounded feminine and the awakened feminine is the starting point for anyone who is on a journey to create a life that feels authentic and purposeful. 

I invite you to click on the link below to learn more about my feminine energy coaching. I would love to hear your story and support you in expanding into your awakened feminine (Divine Feminine). 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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The Irony of Self Worth

Finding It In An Unexpected Place

the irony of self worth

Hello, Lovely,
The irony of self worth is that I found my worthiness in the most unexpected place. My journey with self worth began years ago, when I was working in sales. I was encouraged to really dig deep into personal growth as a tool to help boost my success in sales and leadership. 

I quickly saw that self worth was a big issue for me that needed serious improvement. 

So I went looking for it, but in all the wrong places.

I tried to think my way there by looking at my mindset and changing my thoughts. 

I tried working my way there by pushing myself harder. 

I tried studying my way there by reading books that were recommended. 

I tried all the “tricks” that I was told, but deep down, I knew I was not showing up in a way that showed that I valued myself highly. 

I didn’t FEEL worthy.

I eventually “stumbled” into the realm of energies and the more and more I learned about feminine energy, the more I started seeing what was wrong. 

Everything I listed above that I was “doing” is masculine energy. Therein lies the problem. 

I identify with a feminine core, meaning that it is through feminine energy that I thrive in this world. In essence, I was trying to operate as a man, and expecting myself to feel good about that. 

By embodying feminine energy and allowing my heart and soul to lead me, I found incredible self worth and felt deeply confident, for the first time in my life. And the deeper and deeper I let go into my feminine energy, the deeper and deeper my self love and self worth goes. 

The irony of self worth is that self worth in and of itself is a masculine quality. But I was not able to feel and embody it, until I had let my feminine energy be free and flowing. 

Our culture emphasizes and glorifies masculine energy and places a lot of pressure on women to live from a very masculine place. It is no wonder that so many women are deeply unhappy and dissatisfied with their lives. 

I have built a coaching business that brings feminine energy back into the lives of women so that they can feel alive, free, confident, purposeful, and deeply worthy. 

I invite you to click on the link below to learn more, and I would love to hear your story. 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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What To Do When Life Feels Heavy

Deepening Self Love & Self Acceptance

what to do when life feels heavy

Hello, Lovely,
My perspective on “what to do when life feels heavy” has dramatically changed over the years of my journey. The more layers of my healing and ascension that I work through, the more I choose to soften and see myself through the eyes of Love. 

I feel that sometimes in the world of personal growth, there is an overemphasis on “staying positive” and shifting the mindset from “negative” to “positive”. From “darkness” to “light”. This sometimes causes a denial of part of our humanness and part of our experience, and a shaming if we are currently in a phase of life that feels really hard and heavy. We are made to feel like we are “weak” or “not good enough” in the spiritual world, if we are struggling with something that feels really challenging to work through. 

How is this self empowering?! How is this going to encourage positive self talk?! 

Hardship, pain, sadness, and suffering IS a part of our human experience. But HOW we choose to experience it what makes the difference. 

This is where a mature soul will find a way to look the hardship dead in the eye and choose compassion and gentleness with the self. There is a deep honesty and vulnerability here that will say, “Yes, this IS really hard.” 

But what comes next is even more important.

The next step is a conscious choice to choose the path of self nurturing, soothing, acceptance, love, gentleness.

How can I be gentle with myself during this time?

What would feel really calming and peaceful?

What would truly comfort me, like a cozy blanket, wrapping around me?

Sometimes, it is helpful to take yourself out of the situation, and imagine it was your best friend who is going through something really hard. Would you be criticizing her/him? Of course not! So stop that, and instead, treat yourself like you would treat her/him. 

Recognize that this season will pass, and that the goal is simply to love and support yourself as best as you can, through this time. 

Notice all the chaos and fear that your mind is generating, and choose not to believe it. Remind yourself again, that this is temporary. Your mind is just doing what it is supposed to do, but you don’t have to believe it. 

For me, this is when I slow down and go to the woods and water. I am able to lose the “crazy” of my mind by sinking into the peace that is found by being present in nature. Everything is calm, the human noise is lost, and I am surrounded by beauty and abundance. The sounds of nature carry an energy of serenity and remind me that everything is ok. 

“This too shall pass.” 

What to do when life feels heavy is actually a “non-doing.” It is being, which is completely feminine energy. It is choosing to stop doing life and take a moment to slow down and be with what is by nurturing the self. 

If this approach feels softer and better for you, I invite you to click on the link below and learn more about my feminine energy coaching. 

I would love to hear your story, and help you shift into a story that feels really, really good. 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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What To Do When My Man Pulls Away

It's Not Really What You Do

what to do when my man pulls away

Hello, Lovely,
Whenever I hold Q&A sessions in my groups, there inevitably is someone who asks me for advice about “what to do when my man pulls away” or a similar version of that. 

It’s a situation that I believe every woman is familiar with.

And it feels terrifying. 

The most common response is to jump into action and “try” harder. Maybe that means being “nicer” or paying more attention to him, or doing more to “show him that I care”. 

It’s so confusing when this doesn’t seem to work because this is what WOMEN would want if the situation were reversed, but it is NOT what men need. 

This is where understanding masculine and feminine energies makes this so simple. Putting it really simply, masculine energy is doing, and feminine energy is being. 

If you want your man to come closer to you, you want him to be doing…coming closer, doing more to reassure you, showing you that he cares, doing whatever he needs to do to make you feel important. You want him to be in his masculine energy. 

But you both cannot be in the same energy at the same time and have the relationship feel the way you want it to feel. Think of it like a magnet. It is the OPPOSITE poles that are attracted together.

So, you must be in your feminine energy. Being in your feminine energy allows you to create space for him to enter into, and step towards you. And we all know how comforting and safe it feels when your man is showing you how important you are or how much he wants to be with you. Being in your feminine energy means you LEAN BACK on your throne. This is not the same as withdrawing or shutting down. These are fear responses and will never bring you the results that you want with anything in your life. 

Leaning back into your feminine energy and your queen’s throne, means that you simply pull your attention/energy back to you. Stop obsessing about what he “isn’t doing right”. Start looking at how YOU are feeling. Notice how it feels when he pulls away. We tend to go into a desperate, panicked, frantic energy. It feels chaotic and  unsafe, internally. Then, put all your attention/energy into helping YOU feel better. This is self soothing, self calming, self responsibility, self love. It is gentle, nurturing, and accepting. 

What can you do with yourself that makes YOU feel good? 

What makes you feel calm, centered, and grounded?

What makes you feel loved?

Instead of expecting/needing him to make you feel better, take your power back by expecting yourself to make you feel better. This is what to do when your mind is asking, “what to do when my man pulls away”.

At first glance, this seems like a paradox, but this is energetic law. And everything is simply energy.

Love yourself like you want your man to love you, and watch what happens. If your man is truly the man for you, he will come closer. He will step up. He will do what it takes. He will find happiness in making you happy. 

You cannot attract a man when you are in masculine energy. You are always going to feel like you are “chasing” him. Stop doing and start being and sit back on your throne. It feels awkward at first, but then it feels absolutely liberating and is massively confidence-boosting!

So next time you hear yourself wondering “what to do when my man pulls away”, stop yourself from doing more for him. And start “doing” more for you. 

If you would like to learn more about my feminine energy coaching, click on the link below. 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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