Maintaining Feminine Energy
Hello, Lovely,
If you desire to be in a relationship with a masculine man, here are my 5 things to do when you are dating.
Until I learned about feminine energy embodiment, I was wondering why I couldn’t seem to get the kind of man that I wanted.
I wanted a man who made me feel like a priority, who made it clear how much I meant to him, and who was willing to do the work to pursue me. I wanted a masculine man. (I’m talking about a very specific kind of masculine. Please read my article “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”)
If this is the kind of man that you want, here is my list of 5 things to do when you are dating…
- Know the “power of the pause”. When we have a new man in our lives, it is easy to get all excited and “fluttery” when he reaches out, but here is where awareness comes in. Notice if there is any “frantic” or “desperate” energy in you when you respond. There is never any rush to reply back, and if you’re anything like me, you might actually do better if you wait and clear the excited energy out so that you can respond in the calm, confident way that you actually desire. Stop waiting by your phone for a text or call, and go about your life as usual.
- Promise yourself that you will not chase. If you desire a man to be masculine towards you, you must be in your feminine. This means that he must be the chaser. Resist the urge to be the one who reaches out first. Allow him to lead the relationship forward. This will ultimately really benefit you, because his actions in pursuing you will make you feel relaxed and confident in his feelings towards you.
- Breathe. Slow yourself down and breathe often. Notice when you are in that excited/nervous energy and choose to breathe and wait before you act. Focus on your breath and use it to drop back into your body. Feel your feet on the ground to calm and stabilize you. Inhale your breath from the ground up into your heart to expand it and feel it open. Feminine energy is very open and free. Use your breath to create these feelings in your body.
- Focus on you. It is easy to put all our attention on the man and what he is or is not doing, when we are getting to know someone new. Let him do or not do whatever he feels is right. This will show you his true intentions. Your job is to focus on YOU and making sure YOU will good. Honor what you are feeling and love yourself fiercely. This will also keep you from self-sacrificing in order to move the relationship along. You need you, and you do not need him.
- Lean back. This is straight up queen energy. Spend time imagining that you are a queen, sitting on your throne. How would you hold yourself in that place? How would you feel? How would you respond to your people? You are the queen. You get to decide what happens in your kindgom. You already have all that you need. There is no frantic, desperate energy here. It is calm, confident, and knowing. Energetically, this works in your favor, because when you lean back, you are creating a space for him to step towards you. This is what you want.
An awakened masculine who truly sees and values you, WILL step forward into the space that you create for him. You must rest in knowing your high value. The man who is meant for you WILL see and honor you and will repeatedly step forward. If he feels wishy-washy or uncertain, he is not the man for you.
Take your time in allowing this to unfold. It may feel different and a little awkward than how you have done things in the past, but if you want a different result, you must do things differently.
You deserve the man of your dreams. Let him prove himself worthy of your love.
For more on living your life by embodying your feminine energy, click the link below.
Sincerely Yours,
Suze
