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Foundations for Your Epic Love Story

Hello Lovely,
“The insecure feminine feeds the ego of the masculine”…

It’s easier to blame men than to be accountable and do the inner work to expand.

It’s easier to take on the victim mindset and receive sympathy, because there are plenty of people in that space.

The insecure feminine will accommodate the demands of the ego of the masculine because she is afraid of losing him or his “love”.

She is afraid of negative consequences.

But she is actually giving her power away by not standing in her truth of what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.

She is accepting less than she desires.

Instead of being accommodating to his demands, she must speak and hold her boundaries, and release the fear of a negative result.

If he has an issue with her boundaries, then he can go.

Unhealthy cycles will continue until she develops the strength to disrupt them by refusing to participate in them.

Simple, but not easy.

I am by no means excusing abusive behavior from men. I am offering empowerment to women to stand up for themselves and remember that they DO hold power in any situation.

We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves.

It takes an enormous amount of inner work to embody the strength of this level of self worth.

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read deeper into this subject by referencing, “The Problem With Being Turned On.”

Also, “Epic Love”.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story.

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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No More Shame

Hello Lovely,
The truth about your insecurities is that they are simply the places that are available for expansion within.

The shaming that usually comes with the word “insecure” encourages us to shrink, diminish, and doubt ourselves, which is clearly a fear response.

Healing and growth is entirely the opposite—it is about expansion.

Expansion within the insecurities is only possible when we fully embrace and own our insecurities.

This is radical self acceptance. (Step #1 for healing).

Radical self acceptance is allowing yourself to be where you are. You recognize that you are moving in a direction towards no longer feeling insecure, but you are honest with yourself (and others) that you are not there yet. AND THAT IS OK.

Allow yourself to see your insecurities as the places where your needs have not been met in the past, and you are currently carrying that past around with you.

No one can change the past, so shaming yourself or someone else for their current insecurities is completely ineffective and counterproductive. (Can we please stop with the shaming, already?!)

Instead, give yourself permission to go within yourself and identify the NEED.

Why am I feeling insecure?

If I allow my feelings to be heard/seen, am I afraid that I will be abandoned, shamed, or ignored?

(Allow yourself to notice that in past, toxic relationships this WOULD have been the response, and THAT is why you are currently having all this internal chaos and uncertainty.)

Am I afraid to be labeled as “needy, clingy, or insecure”?

What do I need to feel emotionally safe, stable, secure, and supported?

How can I validate (own) this need and invite the other person into a closer connection with me? (Communication is key).

Please note that these kinds of perspectives and questions are only effective when you are in a growth-centered relationship/connection where you and the other person are striving to create a conscious relationship.

A toxic relationship will only cause further trauma and damage to you because the other person does not have the capacity to accept your invitation into expansion, healing, and harmony.

A healthy relationship dynamic means BOTH partners acknowledge that neither one is perfectly healed, and that it is the common goal to reassure the other during this healing process.

It is each partner’s responsibility to own their insecurities, vocalize the need, and invite the other in for reassurance and healing.

This is the goal.

NOT shaming.

The truth about your insecurities is that when you start seeing them as opportunities for growth and deeper intimacy, you can then access peace and healing.

If you are ready to dive deeper into your personal expansion journey, click the link below to learn more and connect with me.

Lovingly,
Suze

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