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Dealing With The Ups And Downs Of Life

Emotional Regulation Leads to Self Worth

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Hello Lovely,
Dealing with the ups and downs of life becomes more visual and simple when we look at it from an energetic frequency standpoint. 

As I was taking a break on the beach today, I was journalling on some mother wound issues and thoughts around emotional regulation. 

Here is a piece from my notes…

Humans and human behavior has always fascinated me. 

I used to say that if I went back to school, it would be to study psychology. (That changed once I started studying energetics).

What currently fascinates me is how we have a tendency to run from the “highs”, just as much as we tend to run from the “lows”.

(Makes total sense, if you look at everything from an energetic frequency standpoint.)

Let’s start with unraveling the “lows”…

How well can you HOLD the energy of a low (“negative” emotion) in your body?

Do you collapse when the hard times hit?

Do you deny yourself what you need?

Do you revert back to a lower vibrational state where you impulsively choose superficial and/or instant gratification?

Do you seek out validation from lower vibrational sources/people?

Choosing to deal with the ups and downs of life differently breaks your toxic cycles with yourself. 

And following this path brings you to high self worth/value. (healing the mother wound!) 

Reach out by clicking the link below when you’re ready to either start this journey, or take it deeper into your Truth.
 
All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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My Journey of Inner Union

Foundations for Your Epic Love Story

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Hello Lovely,
I feel the need to expose more of my journey of inner union..

I grew up without my mother and with a severely wounded masculine father.
 
I grew up to become a master of wounded masculine energy—completely shut down emotionally, analyzing everything, being proud of my logical processing/planning/problem-solving, and my hard work ethic.
 
I remember a compliment my father gave me, “You have a very mechanical mind for a woman.”
 
I over-gave, was too nice, had no boundaries, low self worth and low confidence. I worked hard to “earn love”. I was hyper-independent because I completely distrusted men. I “did it all” because I was overly self-reliant and controlling. I viewed women who were emotional as weak. I was an extreme case of a woman with a feminine core, trying to force her way through life as a masculine, because that was all I knew.
 
On a hot Sunday morning in Brazil, 10 years ago, I hit my first rock bottom (dark night of the soul)…burnt out, deeply depressed, and physically sick.
 
I have spent the last decade, clawing my way out of the darkness, healing my body, burning my old life to the ground, and recreating my identity.
 
The more I rested in my feminine, the more relief washed over more.
 
The more I let go of the doing, the more I found freedom and spaciousness in my flowing.
 
The more I let myself feel, the more I learned radical self acceptance, self respect, and self Love.
 
The more I let my intuition guide me, the more powerful and sovereign I felt.
 
But then I hit a plateau. Because the feminine can only soften and open to the extent that the masculine holds a safe space for her to relax.
 
I had to switch my focus over to my inner masculine, because I had rejected it and labeled it “bad”, rigid, restrictive, and limiting, and not yet learned how to use it to support and provide for me.
 
The more I healed my masculine, the more I fell in love with boundaries and how they created support and clarity for me.
 
The more I healed my masculine, the greater space I learned to hold for all the emotions with no judgement and shame.
 
The more I healed my masculine, the more I learned to trust and understand the masculine and therefore, men.
The more I healed my masculine, the more my childhood wounds with my own father are closed out.
 
The more I healed my masculine, the more I learned how to validate myself.
 
The more I healed my masculine, the more I finally felt safe enough to go deep into raw intimacy.
 
And here I am, 10 years later, and I feel magnificent.
 
It’s been a wild ride—questioning my sanity, nervous breakdowns, a brutal divorce, betrayal/rejection by family, and losing it all.
 
But in losing all the fake foundations built on fears, I gained all the “things” I actually ever wanted.
 
That is inner union. The integration and collaboration of the masculine & feminine working TOGETHER to create harmony, wholeness, high value, confidence and knowing.
Both the masculine & feminine are NEEDED.
 
Neither can be pushed away or regarded as less than.
 
And when both are welcomed home, bliss is achieved.
 
It’s time for you to come home. Come home to ALL that you truly are. Time to stop holding yourself back. Time for freedom. Time for Love. Time to come alive in all your glory.
 
Time to fall in love with all the magic you hold inside you, and unlock your Epic Love Story.
 
Reach out by clicking the link below when you’re ready to either start this journey, or take it deeper into your Truth.
 
All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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What Happens When You Hold Space

Foundations for Your Epic Love Story

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Hello Lovely,
What happens when you hold space goes deeper than you may think at first glance. 

The more “work” (inner work) you’ve had to do to “achieve” something (state of being), the more you’re going to value it.
 
The more pain you have had to go through to get to the other side, the more you are going to value it.
 
The more challenging it has been, the more value it holds because you know what you had to go through to get it.
 
So once you’re there, you’re going to be able to hold space for it…which means being willing to wait for it to manifest in the physical.
 
…Which means delayed gratification.
 
…Which means epic patience and trust.
 
…Which means boundaries to uphold it.
 
…Which means high self worth all around it.
 
On top of this, what happens when you hold space is that you unlock your soul mission and purpose for being here.
 
You can read, “The Truth About Pain” for more on that. 
 

If you want Epic, you have to choose to be Epic.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-hearted space to reveal your Epic Life. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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When We Can No Longer Avoid The Darkness of Feminine Energy

Radical Healing & Unapologetic Expansion

when we can no longer avoid the darkness of feminine energy

Hello Lovely,
For some of us, there comes a time when we can no longer avoid the darkness of feminine energy.

There comes a moment, when we simply can no longer keeping running from the overwhelming fear of repeating past cycles and pain, and we are forced to dive deep into the darkness that is the healing waters of feminine energy.

This is raw, “ugly”, deep healing.

This is way more than changing a belief or mindset.

This is experiencing pain, discovering all the parts of you that you have rejected or labeled as “unacceptable” and learning radical self acceptance. ( See  “The Capacity to Hold Space & Radical Self Acceptance”.)

This is seeing all the times you ran from the hurt, and this time, choosing to sit fully in the hurt, as long as it takes, until it is fully gone. (See also “A Time to Heal”)

This is self care and self love at a level that many are going to misunderstand and shame you.

This is slowing down to a crawl, so that your eyes are wide open to ALL that you are–scars and all.

This is YOU finally deciding who you are going to be and what your needs are that need to be met in order to get yourself there.  (You may like “When What You Want Is Not What You Need”)

This is what happens when we can no longer avoid the darkness of feminine energy.

In fully embracing your darkness, and who you have become because of those wounds, you become limitless.

Your sense of self worth skyrockets, because you sat in all the glory of your darkness, you spoke to all the beasts, and you calmed the raging storm. (“The Irony of Self Worth”)

You will not accept less than what you are worthy of.

You will have crystal clear clarity on your priorities, what is acceptable to you, and what is absolutely unacceptable to you.

You will not allow anyone to walk all over you again.

You will unapologetically declare your boundaries and take care of your needs.

You will also learn how to connect so deeply with those you love, because you chose to connect with all the previously rejected parts of you.

Your empathy will strengthen.

You compassion will deepen.

You will hold space for the “craziest” of emotions with ease.

It may be dark and painful, but it is so worth it.

It is when we can no longer avoid the darkness of feminine energy, it is then that we are able to finally access our highest power as women…healing.

You may also like to read “The Dark Side of Feminine Energy” and “The Truth About Shadows, Darkness, and Your Ego”.

If you are ready to dive deeper into your personal expansion journey, click the link below to learn more and connect with me.

Lovingly,

Suze

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What To Know When You Feel Your Feelings

When the Pain Is Extreme

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Hello Lovely,

What to know when you feel your feelings is one of the most important lessons I have had to learn.
 
I sometimes wonder what my soul was thinking/saying before it signed up for this lifetime.
 
There has been so much pain.
 
So many deep, torturous emotions.
 
So much prolonged injustice.
 
So many painful moments that cannot be understood with the limits of the human mind.
 
So many moments of questioning my ability and capacity of holding this pain. 
 
But all this has brought me to this present moment and the deeply healing and liberating work that I do with women. 
 
I now see that the depth to which one can hold space for another depends completely on the depth of pain that person has experienced. 
 
So today, dear women of the world, 
 
I give you permission.
 
Right here. Right now.
 
Allow yourself to feel whatever you are feeling.
 
Stop running from it.
 
Stop hiding.
 
Because when you do run from your feelings, you are denying yourself access to your wholeness.
 
And when you fully embody your wholeness, you are your most powerful.
 
When you are whole, you live unapologetically.
 
You speak your truth vulnerably
 
And you love recklessly.
 
You flow in your intuitive wisdom
 
You inspire your man to step up into his greatness.
 
You are a queen.
 
You are a goddess.
 
You are a warrior.
 
So, today, I give you permission to feel everything.
 
Embrace all that you are—the wild, chaotic, and seemingly destructive emotions.
 
Embrace, integrate, and find your wholeness.
 
Because when you are whole, you are free.
 
And when you are free, you are unstoppable.
 
If you are ready to free yourself, click the link below to learn more and connect with me.
 

Lovingly,
Suze

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The Dark Side of Feminine Energy

Acknowledging ALL of You

the dark side of feminine energy

Hello, Lovely,
The dark side of feminine energy is often overlooked, but are 2 sides to every coin.

It is easy to like the side of the feminine that is all love & light.
 
The love and light is soft, gentle, forgiving, accepting, and agreeable.
 
But what about the “dark” side of the feminine?
 
This is the side of the feminine that has been suppressed for so long, because she makes others uncomfortable.
 
She sacredly demands growth, by exposing the raw truth of “negative” energies/emotions.
 
She feels ALL the feelings so that true healing and release can happen (alchemy).
 
She embraces all that she is (the good, the “bad”, the “ugly”), which allows her to unapologetically align with the Truth.
 
She is not vulnerable to emotional manipulation, which makes her a force to be reckoned with.
 
Most cannot “handle” this side of her.
 
Most try to shame her.
 
Most are terrified of her raw power.
 
But there is a Divine purpose to her.
 
She is chaos and destruction to anything that is not Truth.
 
Her sacred rage is a fire that burns away anything that is not Love (fear).
 
She answers only to Love—not to be confused with the human “love”, but the sacred, Truth of Love.
 
Until we accept responsibility for this aspect of the Divine Feminine, we will suffer the consequences…
 
Those around us will continue to show up as their lesser selves, and we will feel unsatisfied, angry, stuck, frustrated, and full of resentment.
 
It is time for us to start speaking to the higher selves of others. (Energetically!)
 
It is time to stop running from our emotions.
 
It is time to create instead of react.
 
You are a queen.
 
You are a goddess.
 
You are a warrior.
 
It is time to remember.
 
Click the link below to connect with me and begin your journey back to Love.

Lovingly,
Suze

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The Capacity to Hold Space & How It Relates to Men (Masculine Energy)

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the capacity to hold space & how it relates to men

Hello, Lovely,
The capacity to hold space & how it relates to men is another stop on our journey of holding space.

I know many of you have been waiting for this one!

It is a subject that I am passionate about, because so many of us have so much healing that we have been and are working on around men/masculine energy.

So many women have and are walking away from relationships that were toxic and completely unaligned.

We want a deep, meaningful connection.

We want passion and desire.

We want to feel seen and accepted.

We want to feel claimed by a Divine Masculine.

My intention with this article today, “The Capacity of Holding Space, and How it Relates to Men (Masculine Energy)”, is to help you more quickly identify a man who is on the path of the Divine Masculine.

No one is perfectly and totally healed, so no one will be able to show up perfectly all the time, but there should be some foundational level of work apparent that can be built on.

For the group of women that I am speaking to, you are already very aware of how you have shut down your emotions in the past to make others more comfortable.

You probably have been labeled as “too much”, or “too sensitive”, or “too emotional”, or “crazy.”

You may have created a narrative in your head that says that you are difficult to love.

If this is you, and you are finally now accepting your emotions and letting yourself be fully aware of them, you will need a man who can support this.

A man who has a high capacity of holding space.

What does this look like?

A man who can see you at your most emotional “mess” self, and be calm.

He does not judge your “mess”.

He does not try to fix your “mess”.

He does not disagree with you and tell you that you should not feel that way.

He does not try to control the chaos of your emotions.

He sees them, right along with you, and is a calm, safe space where you can calm down.

He offers comfort, reassurance, and stability.

He does not push you away or come down hard on you.

This is a man with a high capacity of holding space for your feminine energy.

The turbulent waters of your feminine energy will calm themselves down in the safe container that he holds steady for you.

So next time you are feeling emotionally chaotic, notice how the man in your life responds…

Does he make the emotional storm worse for you?

Or does he respond calmly, accepting you and loving you through it until you find stable ground?

The capacity of holding space and how it relates to men is super important on the journey of embodying your higher, Divine Feminine self.

You will not be able to feel the level of freedom that you desire without understanding and integrating this.

For more on the capacity of holding space, see “The Capacity to Hold Space & Radical Acceptance”.

And if you are ready for deep support and guidance on your personal empowerment journey, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

Click the link below to learn more and connect with me.

Lovingly,
Suze

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