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When Relationships End, part 5

Reflection & Conclusion

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we tend to view them as a loss or rejection, which is painful.

Comfort and peace can be accessed when we learn to shift our perspective…
 
What if it is a redirection, back towards authenticity?
 
What if it is an opportunity to expand into the next level of you?
 
Endings also imply a new beginning is now possible.
 
How can I help myself shift into this “new beginning” energy?
 
Endings are a chance to review the relationship, so that you do not continue to repeat the past.
 
What parts of it did work?
 
How did the relationship begin and what was my motivation to commit?
 
Where did I struggle with people pleasing or making myself smaller for the other? (Codependency)
 
What was I attracted to? Am I still attracted to that?
 
At what point did things start to shift towards the ending?
 
How might I respond differently next time?
 
At what point did I start to lose trust in the relationship/start to close my heart down?
 
What patterns am I no longer going to participate in, in the next relationship?
 
What father/masculine wounds presented themselves for healing?
 
What prevented me from healing, while still in the relationship?
 
When relationships end, it is because one or both people decide to stay in their personal comfort level, instead of choosing to open the heart even more to vulnerability and connection, which is also choosing growth.
 
(Again, no judgment! We all get to decide how far we want to go.)
 
You get to choose where you want to go from here.
 
You get to choose to move on and potentially repeat the past.
 
Or
 
You get to choose to intentionally and purposely attract & create something truly authentic that heals you and your partner, and builds a devotion that is fueled by Divine Love.
 
If you found this series helpful, and you are ready to go deeper with your personal relationship story, reach out to discuss 1:1 coaching opinions. 
 
You can also read about my 3 levels of feminine energy coaching by clicking the link below.
 
To start at the beginning of this series, read, “When Relationships End, part 1”.
 
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Suze

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When Relationships End, part 4

Finding Healing

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, it can trigger some trauma responses. 

Even if you haven’t been through divorce, you probably have heard how difficult divorce can be.
 
Any long term or serious relationship ending, whether it involves divorce or not, deeply affects us in the next relationship.
 
And for those of us who do choose to end a relationship with divorce, it often takes a years before we can work up the guts to actually vocalize it and follow through with the divorce.
 
For many of us, we walk away from the relationship with a deep rooted fear of repeating the past and a fear/aversion to committment. We may even become so hyper-focused on this fear that it distorts our view of current situations.
 
Not only does this fear directly affect our personal life moving forward, but we tend to project this fear onto our friends and their relationships.
 
The intention is to protect our friends from experiencing the pains we have experienced, but in so doing, we are actually encouraging them to close down their hearts. The heart is the direct connection to God/Source, so in closing down the heart, they are disconnected from their Truth.
 
I am by no means saying that anyone should stay in an abusive relationship.
 
What I am saying is that there is deep healing that could be offered to us in relationship, but we are blocking ourselves from receiving it, because we are living in the past.
 
Healing is needed.
 
Being in a relationship can offer tremendous healing.
 
I see too much information out there that is creating a “disposable” mindset towards relationships—if you aren’t happy, just move on to the next one.
 
This is blocking our own healing.
 
Clearly this conversation needs discernment, so I am asking anyone who reads this to sit with it before jumping to any judgement.
 
To be continued…
 
You can also start at the beginning of this series by reading, “When Relationships End, part 1”.

Or, to read the next letter in this series, see “When Relationships End, part 5”.
 
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When Relationships End, part 3

Refusing To Choose The "Easier" Path

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. This is letter #3 to help you shift your perspective on the whole matter of relationships. 

Having the relationship your heart desires takes a lot of work.
 
A lot of work in being self aware and choosing to keep your heart open.
 
Every time you are choosing to keep your heart open, you are choosing growth.
 
(And as discussed in article #1, “When Relationships End”  , choosing growth is choosing to stay in relationship)
 
Choosing growth is choosing to keep the heart open, because often it is the more scary, and more challenging option.
 
It’s easier to shut down and stay in the smaller reality where everything is familiar.
 
It’s easier to be alone and just not have to deal with it anymore.
 
It’s easier to blame the other and not take responsibility for our own part.
 
It’s easier to see the negative and allow fear to sabotage, instead of focusing on creating more of the positive.
 
It’s easier to do whatever we want to do and not have to collaborate a life with someone else.
 
It’s easier to avoid conflict than to choose to work through it.
 
It may be easier, but it definitely won’t bring the depth of connection that you are longing for.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the previous article in  this series, “When Relationships End, Part 2”.
 
And here is the next article, “When Relationships End, part 4”.
 
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When Relationships End, part 2

The Key To Creating What You Do Want

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, we often see it as a bad thing. But, as I pointed out in my first Love Letter on “When Relationships End”, the key perspective shift is to see how breakups are simply a matter of a closed heart.

I have learned that keeping an open heart requires radical trust.

Trust in a Source greater and wiser than your humanness.

Trust in a Vision and a Plan that is intended for your highest good.

Trust in your own intuitive “knowings”, and holding the faith that even though you do not have physical “evidence” to back it up.

Trust that you can bring the Vision down into the physical reality.

This is the energy of goddess, aka, Divine Feminine.

She is always looking upward, into heaven.

She keeps her heart open to the guidance she receives from above.

She does not allow herself to get distracted by what her physical situation may appear to be because she knows it is an illusion.

She never doubts the dream/Vision.

She accepts and flows with her intuitive feelings.

She is not afraid to be called “selfish” for her self love practices.

Because…

She knows she is the Oracle.

She knows she is the healer.

She knows she is the inspiration.

She knows she is the co-creator. 

She knows her high value.

Next, I will be expanding on this and how it relates to relationships…

You can also read the first article in  this series, “When Relationships End”.

Here is the next letter in the series, “When Relationships End, part 3”.
 
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When Relationships End

Finding Closure & Peace

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Hello Lovely,

When relationships end, I think it’s safe to say that we all struggle.

Grief, loss, disappointment, regret, confusion, and hurt run wild.
 
But since I chose to leave my marriage, I have been unraveling the underlying cause of breakups, and it has dramatically changed my perspective of endings.
 
Relationships end because one or both people choose to deny themselves growth.
 
(I do not say this with judgment, because I believe we all get to choose how far we want to go in each lifetime).
 
Growth requires us to keep our heart open.
 
An open heart can feel like too big of a risk.
 
We focus on the scary, unknown, the potential hurt/disappointment and are not able to see the other side of the story.
 
We cannot reach our fullest potential until we learn to keep our hearts open.
 
We cannot have the depth of love & connection that we long for, without an open heart.
 
We cannot find soul-level fulfillment until we prioritize keeping our hearts open.
 
The open heart is the missing link to all we have ever desired to be, or to have.
 
I have so much more to say, but I am leaving it here for now, and will unravel this more, in upcoming posts…
 

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What is Makes a Great Relationship

Great Relationships Do Not Just Happen

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Hello Lovely,

What makes a great relationship?

Great relationships don’t just happen.
 
They are built from endless intention, tenacious vision, and unwavering presence.
 
They require you to open your heart, over and over.
 
They demand radical forgiveness, acceptance, and love.
 
They are built from a day-to-day conscious commitment that teaches a new depth of patience and trust.
 
Great relationships don’t happen without obsessive communication.
Communication that is terrifying in its vulnerability.
 
Communication that tests the ability to keep your heart open.
 
Communication that is humble enough to take responsibility for your “mistakes”.
 
Communication that listens to hear the call for love from the other.
 
Great relationships don’t just happen.
 
They come from an endless hunger for more.
 
More Love.
 
More acceptance
 
More healing
 
More stability
 
More understanding
 
More passion
 
More laughter
 
More comfort
 
More intimacy
 
More truth
 
More authenticity
 
Great relationships start by choosing to have a great relationship with yourself first.
 
Because you cannot create outside of you what you have not yet created inside.
 
Choose you. Love you. Forgive you. Accept you. Listen to you. Trust you.
 
Expand yourself and your relationship will expand.

If you are ready to expand yourself, click the link below to learn more about my 3 levels of feminine energy coaching.

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Suze

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What is Goddess Energy, part 2

The Oracle of the Divine Feminine

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Hello Lovely,

What is goddess energy? A goddess is a feminine with a clear, open channel, connected to Source, to Love, to the universe.

The struggle to tap into goddess energy is because the channel has become blocked, obstructed, clogged.

The more painful life experiences you have, the more obstructed this channel becomes, because we create mental systems to protect us from repeating our past pain. (Belief systems/stories).

These mental systems then become part of our identity. (More mental limitations).

The more obstructed the channel, the more the heart closes down. (The heart IS the channel).

This “work” of rising into a more powerful and authentic version of ourselves is often seen as overcoming obstacles.

Overcoming is a masculine term. It implies a fight, a climbing over, a resistance.

And yes, when we are opening up to our Truth, there is a resistance from the human aspect of ourselves. We find growth uncomfortable, and the fear of the unknown likes to hold us back.

What if the journey for a feminine is to simply remove the obstacles to open back up the channel?

What if everything is already there, but you are simply blocking it from showing up?

What if you cannot see the Love because the view is blocked?

The channel (heart) must be open and clear to feel the connection and love that we so deeply crave.

It is in the state of nothingness, that we can be everything.

It is in the state of limitlessness that we feel total freedom.

It is in the state of total openness, that anything is possible.

The open heart is the portal between the physical and spiritual.

Open up to receive miracles, awaken your inner goddess, and live a life of magic.

If you are ready to embrace your inner goddess, click the link below to learn more about my 3 levels of feminine energy coaching.

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Why You Don’t Have What You Want

You Don't Even Know What You Want

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Hello, Lovely,
Ever wonder why you don’t have what you want?

It occurred to me the other day as I was writing an email (you can sign up for emails below), that the #1 issue I see with women is all the same root issue. 

Women have no idea what they actually want. 

I get it. I didn’t know that this was really my problem at first, either. 

Here’s the deal. Women are shown all day long, everyday “what they want”. Women are marketed to endlessly and women are emotionally pressured into cultural ideals. Women are told what we want AND even worse, we are being told our wants in a way that forces us to tap into masculine energy, which only creates more confusion, dissatisfaction, frustration, disconnection. This clearly takes away all our power.

How can you feel powerful when you feel confused and uncertain? 

How can you feel knowing when you feel frustrated?

How can you feel confident when you feel dissatisfied? 

I have said it this way before–when I started waking up to my life and realizing how empty it felt, I felt like I was living someone else’s life. I had followed someone else’s ideals, and priorities, and NOT MINE. 

Knowing what you want is a multi-layered process. 

First, you must give yourself the time and space to really, really see and accept yourself. You must love and accept it ALL–the good, the bad, the ugly (and the weird, as my boyfriend says). Let it all be seen. Let it all out. Notice all that is happening inside you, day in and day out. 

Second, from this very open vulnerable, and emotionally available place, you can feel safe with yourself. You can trust yourself to try new things. You must be more curious about how things actually FEEL to you, than be afraid of what you will look like, or what someone might think. 

Third, from here, you will start to see the world through energy. The physical things that your physical eyes see will be irrelevant. You will feel energy. You will know what you want by energy or how it makes you feel–NOT by the human standards/perspectives. 

The bottom line is this…

You will never have what you want, because you don’t even know what you want. 

If you would like to learn more of this process and walk with me, step-by-step, click on the link below to learn more about my upcoming class “Be Your Own Ultimate Lover”. 

It is my desire that you choose to finally know once and for all why you don’t have what you want, and take the time to love yourself, so that you can FEEL what you want. 

It is so worth it. 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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What is Divine Feminine?

Divine Feminine Is The Real You

What Is Divine Feminine

Hello, Lovely,
I see you, over there, quietly and curiously asking, “What is Divine Feminine?” and I am so thrilled that you are wondering about it. 

This terminology came across my path years ago, as I was heavily peeling back the layers of myself. I had come to the painful realization that I was living a life that looked exactly “right”, and yet it did not bring me the happiness or satisfaction that I had been led to believe would be found there.  Something was wrong with my life, and I felt like I didn’t even know who I was anymore, but I was very clear about one thing–I was going to find out who I am. 

Finding out who I actually am turned into a very interesting road with many unexpected turns and many lessons to be learned. It felt like I was burning everything to the ground, so that I could rebuild something that felt real, authentic, and meaningful. I needed to feel alive in my life, instead of drowning in Groundhog Day. 

What I have learned is this–The Divine Feminine is the higher self. It is the state of being that is achieved when one takes massive responsibility for themselves and their life, heals their wounds, starts aligning with their soul, and strives to maintain a healthy balance of their feminine and masculine energies. 

The Divine Feminine refuses to settle, lives unapologetically, is unafraid to create boundaries, is clear and unwavering in her decisions, trusts her intuition, has released co-dependency and/or people pleasing, feels whole and complete on her own, speaks her Truth, and is a warrior of Love. She lives by embracing her inner queen, goddess, and warrior. 

In romantic relationships, the Divine Feminine seeks to attract in her Divine Masculine–sometimes called soulmate, or divine counterpart. She will not settle for a relationship that does not feel aligned with her, or that will not rise with her. If she is already in a relationship, her mission is to inspire her partner to rise into his masculinity. She leans back into her feminine energy, to draw out the masculine in her partner. She vulnerably communicates her needs and desires for the relationship to feel the deep emotional connection and safety that her heart craves. She knows that in accomplishing this, both partners win. Both have their needs met and feel seen, heard, accepted, loved, and supported. They are able to create a connection that is sacred and protected. He holds a safe, grounded place for her to be free, to flow, to connect, and create. 

The Divine Feminine is needed more than ever today. She is able to heal this world and create a better future. 

In my journey to my Divine Feminine Self, I have come to realize that it is my purpose to help women step into this powerful, confident, and authentic state of being. 

I would love to hear your story of what brought you here to this place of wondering, “What is Divine Feminine?” 

And I would love to help guide you in awakening her and her powers. 

If this sounds like something of interest to you, please clink on the link below for Divine Feminine Coaching options.

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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What Is Feminine Energy?

Feminine Energy Sets You Free

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Hello, Lovely,
Have you ever asked yourself, “What is feminine energy?” Over the past few years, I have seen a shift in women’s empowerment. We are getting sick of feeling exhausted, stressed out, and unfulfilled. I have also witnessed how remembering our feminine essence is setting women free, and empowering them to create lives that feel authentic, connected, and satisfying. 

So what is this feminine energy that is starting to get attention everywhere? 

Feminine energy feels light, free, flowing, open, and receptive. It does not force, hustle, push, or “make it happen.” It is open to multiple possibilities, instead of focused on one specific, exact plan of action.  

Feminine energy is life force, creative energy. Without it, creativity cannot exist. Take a moment to realize how powerful that is. If we can embrace our power of creation, that means we can bring anything to life. We can literally make something out of “nothing.” We can creatively solve problems, we can creatively build the lives that feel really, really good and aligned to us, and we can creatively nurture our relationships to be deeply connected, passionate, and intimate. 

Feminine energy is feeling, emotional, sensual, and flows like waves. Many of us have been misled into thinking that these are “negative” qualities and we have spent years denying and pushing aside this aspect of ourselves. We have been taught that this makes us “weak”, or in some way, unattractive. I am here to tell the world that the opposite is actually the truth. Our power as women lies in embracing our emotions and feelings, and then learning how to turn all that energy into our power. It is very upsetting to me how we have only been shown how emotions can destroy us, and not been shown how to utilize all the energy into massive self empowerment. The most powerful version of you is ALL of you. 

Feminine energy is connection. This is where I have seen a lot of women coming to big revelations in their lives. We cannot keep silencing the cry inside that is begging for deeper connection in our relationships. We want to feel like our lives have meaning and purpose. We crave to feel fully seen, heard, and loved. Functional, yet only superficial relationships are no longer acceptable. Feminine energy is the only path to access all of this. We cannot have the relationships we desire until we learn to be really vulnerable with ourselves. We must learn to fully see, hear, and love ALL of ourselves first, to then go outside ourselves and create it with someone else. Feminine energy brings you into a deep connection with yourself, your life, and your relationships. It is our responsibility as women to create, nurture, and sustain connection in our relationships, but it is impossible to do this without feminine energy. 

Feminine energy is open and receptive. This is the power that attracts to us all that we desire. This is the power that inspires men to rise up into their healed masculinity, which in turn, makes us feel safe, important, and loved. This is what ultimately sets us free because we are able to simply BE, instead of running around, feeling like we have to DO everything, decide everything, and figure everything out, to make our worlds happen. This allows for a reality where we feel more calm, confident, and clear in our lives. We are living and flowing in our hearts and intuition, instead of creating chaos, turbulence, and exhaustion by living in our heads. 

Feminine energy is the force that sets you free to be who you really want to be and have the life that your heart desires.

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Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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