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Rethinking Femininity

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I laughed softly to myself as I titled this coaching post, “Rethinking Femininity”. 
 
I laughed because this title is a complete oxymoron.
 
Thinking is the opposite of femininity.
 
But I also realize that in my life experience, and in working with women, we sometimes need to redefine labels that have taken on a disempowering or negative connotation. We have to rethink the whole idea to find a new path to liberation.
 
Not only did I find humor in this title, but I found humor in looking back over my life and my views with femininity.
I come from a background where I thought femininity was “weak” and the very opposite of powerful.
 
So it’s funny how I have now built an entire business and lifestyle around promoting a return to femininity!
 
It is in remembering my femininity that I finally actually feel powerful, confident, clear, and free. 
 
So let’s get back on topic…
 
Femininity is the surrendering of the struggle of trying to succeed like a man, and the re-claiming of your power as a woman. 
 
The power of being a woman is multi-faceted.
 
We hold incredible power with men, because we hold the power of attraction. They are drawn to us and innately desire to make us happy. A man who truly loves a woman will do absolutely anything to make his woman feel happy and loved. An honest and aware man will clearly tell you “women hold all the power.” 
 
If that’s true, then why are we struggling and feeling exhausted with trying to succeed like men???
 
We also hold incredible power in emotions. Clearly, we are the more emotional gender, and this has been often used against us, to keep us small. The truth is that all human behavior is driven by deep rooted emotion, whether the person is fully conscious of it or not. Humans all behave, decide, and act in response to an inner spark of pain or pleasure. We are either chasing after pleasure, or running from pain.  
 
Learning how to embrace our emotions and then turn them into empowerment/creation, is the key to power and influence. 
 
The struggle of trying to succeed like a man is very heavy, and if you are honest with yourself, you will notice a quiet little voice inside you, telling you that something is “wrong” with how your life feels. 
 
“It shouldn’t be this hard.”
 
“I never want to feel this way again.”
 
“Something is not right here.”
 
“Why don’t I feel fulfilled?”
 
Reclaiming your power in femininity feels like massive relief. 
 
You do not have to do all the things.
 
You can relax.
 
You can flow and feel free.
 
You can find calmness and confidence. 
 
You do not have to figure it all out. 
 
There is nothing to fix.
 
Femininity unlocks the magic and freedom that you crave at a soul level. 
 
Femininity heals the wounds and traumas of your past. 
 
Femininity empowers your attraction power.
 
Femininity allows your masculine soulmate to find you.
 
Femininity is everything you have ever wanted. 
 
Femininity is your truest and highest state of being.
 
You know who you are.
 
You know what you are.
 
You know how you serve. 
 
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What Not To Do When You Are Dating

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Hello, Lovely,
What not to do when you are dating is such a huge topic in my 1:1 coaching right now. Women are realizing that they want more in their relationships, and that they want men to show up in a powerful and clear way. 

We have discovered that our dissatisfaction in previous relationships is due to being with men who were not in their masculine energy.  (For more on understanding this, check out “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”.)

So, if you fall in the category of awakened women who desire a very masculine man for partnership, you need to know what not to do when you are dating. (To be clear on awakened women, please reference, “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”.)

Clearly, if you are looking to attract something different than what you have had in your past, you are going to have to show up differently!

What not to do when you are dating is really simple.

  1. Stop reaching out, texting, and calling the man. Stop initiating. This is all masculine energy. If you are the one with masculine energy, it is impossible for the man to show up with the masculine energy you say you desire. How a relationship starts determines how the relationship will play out. Let him reach out and initiate contact.
  2. Stop making plans. Let him make the plans and ask you to join him. Your presence is an honor. Make him ask for it to show you that he values you, your time, and your presence. 
  3. Stop asking to talk. If you are not in a committed relationship, it is your responsibility to see what is happening to cause insecurity within yourself. Notice what is bubbling up inside yourself. What needs are not being met, and is he capable of meeting these needs? Or is this an old, codependent habit that needs to be released? You may like to read “Am I In A Codependent Relationship?”   A man who has done his work in awareness will sense when something is “off” and will initiate a conversation to make sure to make sure you feel safe and secure.
  4. Stop ignoring your energetic responses to him. Does he make you feel heavy or light? Does he make you feel comfortable or nervous? The man who is good for you will make you feel light, comfortable, and safe. 

You cannot attract a masculine partner if you are the one leading the relationship along and being in your masculine energy.  

Lean back and let the man show you what he is made of. Make him prove that he is worthy of YOU.

If you are ready to get really clear on attracting the man and relationship you want, click the link below to read more on my 1:1 coaching.

Warmly,
Suze

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Finding Fulfillment In Conscious Relationships

Foundations for Conscious Partnerships

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Hello, Lovely,
Finding fulfillment in conscious relationships is deeply satisfying and inspiring.

Yes, relationships are our greatest teachers.

Some say that relationships are to make us “holy, not happy”. Others say that they are to increase our consciousness.
 
But there is another aspect that is often neglected, and NEEDS to be glorified.
 
Conscious relationships/soul connections are also deeply poetic and mutually fulfilling.
 
As women (feminines), we have a lot emotional and mental battles in a day. The emotional waves that we ride are truly incredible, and an awakened feminine will be excruciatingly aware of these waves, but will also recognize the incredible importance of them, as they guide her and keep her connected to Love/Universe/God.
 
Her man (masculine) is there to remind her, over and over again, of his unconditional love for her. In the middle of her emotional waves, he is there, consistently grounding her, supporting her, loving her, showing up.
 
This unconditional love enables the feminine to look at her masculine with the admiration that he needs to feel appreciated and seen. This Love also encourages the feminine to accept and forgive the masculine when he is human and “messes up”.
 
This acceptance drives the masculine into a level of loyalty and devotion that is every woman’s deepest desire.
Soul connections are challenging because they highlight areas of potential growth, but they also create an infinite circle of Love between the two that is exactly what we all secretly crave.
 
Finding fulfillment in conscious relationships is what inspires us to keep moving forward in our healing/growth journeys. It creates a bond between the masculine and feminine that keeps giving to both, and strengthening over time.
 
Creating a relationship with this dynamic starts with you, learning to have this kind of relationship with your own inner masculine and feminine. 
 

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Warmly,
Suze

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How To Make A Man Desire You

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Hello, Lovely,
The answer to “how to make a man to desire you” is really simple…you just have to desire yourself!!!

What exactly does that mean? 

It’s really simple. If you don’t deeply desire to be with yourself, or you don’t deeply desire to take the time alone with yourself to really see and love all of you, how in the world can you expect someone else to?

And if you can’t reveal all the parts of you to yourself, how are you going to be able to reveal yourself to someone else and LET them really truly see and love you?

You cannot have the relationship you desire, until you learn how to have the relationship with yourself first!

You have to take the time to romance yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself. Intimately know yourself!

It is so easy to  distract ourselves with men that aren’t fully available or aren’t clearly and deeply desiring to be FULLY committed to us. There are plenty of those men around! 

And if those are the kind of men that seem to be circling you, it simply means that you have not yet become fully available to yourself. I strongly recommend that you read my article “Am I In A Codependent Relationship?” to see if codependency is the role that you tend to take on in relationships. 

You are hiding parts of yourself that you think are “unacceptable”. The parts that we label “too much” or “not enough” or “ugly”, or “dark”. You know what I mean! 

Another challenge that I see with a lot of women here is that they have not taken the time to really sit and be with themselves to be REALLY clear about what they REALLY want.

As women, we have been programmed our whole lives about what our lives are “supposed” to look like, or  if we achieve certain things, that those things will make us “happy”. 

What you deeply desire is buried deep beneath all the propaganda that we have been fed our whole lives. 

Take the time to know you, love you, desire ALL of you, and feel how to make a man desire you, by simply being you, the real you. 

You may also find help and clarity by reading “What It Means To Be Whole”.

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Warmly,
Suze

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Women and Desire

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women and desire

Hello, Lovely,
Women and desire is a subject that is really interesting to unravel. I plan on writing a few Love Letters on this subject, but for today, let’s create some awareness around women and desire.

When you understand women and desire, things become a lot simpler to understand when it comes to feminine and masculine energies in relationships. 

Desire is a huge deal to a feminine.

Women don’t actually want attention, they want be desired.

Women don’t actually want sex, they want to feel desired. 

Like I always say, it’s the thing behind the thing, that you want.

It’s the energetic FEELINGS that you want, not the physical things. 

Women want to feel and be desired. It’s that simple. 

If a man is “chasing” her, he is proving that he desires her.

If a man is calling, texting, and giving her attention, he is showing desire. She has captured his attention and he desires to get her attention.

Women like passionate sex because it makes her feel desired. She doesn’t want a man who acts unsure sexually. She wants him to take control, to be hungry, to show desire. (In a respectful way, of course.) On a deeper note, this is very masculine energy, so this is very attractive to a woman with a feminine core. 

If you are wondering about your core energy, read my Love Letter, “What Is My Core Energy?”

I love to break these things down, because once you start to feel and live your life with energies, it becomes a lot easier to create the life you want.

The question is NOT “what do you want?” but rather, “how do you want to feel?” 

Identifying energies makes it a lot easier to get to the root of what an authentic life looks like for you. 

So when you think of women and desire from now on, recognize that this is a huge point of attraction for a woman with a feminine core energy.

If she consistently feels desired by her man, (and not just in a sexual way), she is able to relax into the relationship (trust), because she is will not be unsure/insecure about how he feels towards her. 

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Warmly,
Suze

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Activating The Right Dragon

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activating the right dragon

Hello, Lovely,
What in the world do I mean by “activating the right dragon”? 

We live in a world of duality–left & right, dark & light, cold & hot, love & fear. 

This also applies to your thoughts and your energy. 

Is it possible that you are not living the life that you say you want, because you are activating the wrong dragon?

There is the dragon of reaction, fear, outward looking, thoughts, and motivation caused by negative emotions. 

There is also the dragon of energetic influence, inspired action, response, alignment to the energies that you DO want, and relaxing to be open to receive. 

The human tends to activate the first one, but the soul prefers to activate the second. 

In any moment, you get to choose which one you are activating. 

This, of course, requires incredible clarity on what you actually want, which is different than knowing what you don’t want.  

Read that again, and if you would like more on that, read my Love Letter, “Why You Don’t Have What You Want”.

Get clear on the empowering energies that you DO want.

This empowers you in activating the right dragon.

Notice how you will find inspired action to create what you want, instead of reaction and pain-filled motivation. 

You are a queen, a goddess, a warrior. 

You hold life force energy to create whatever world you desire.

This is activating the right dragon.

Over, and over, and over again. 

To learn more about feminine energy and how it can help you create the life that you desire, click on the link below.

Warmly,
Suze

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Activating The Right Dragon

Foundations for Feminine Empowerment

activating the right dragon

Hello, Lovely,
What in the world do I mean by “activating the right dragon”? 

We live in a world of duality–left & right, dark & light, cold & hot, love & fear. 

This also applies to your thoughts and your energy. 

Is it possible that you are not living the life that you say you want, because you are activating the wrong dragon?

There is the dragon of reaction, fear, outward looking, thoughts, and motivation caused by negative emotions. 

There is also the dragon of energetic influence, inspired action, response, alignment to the energies that you DO want, and relaxing to be open to receive. 

The human tends to activate the first one, but the soul prefers to activate the second. 

In any moment, you get to choose which one you are activating. 

This, of course, requires incredible clarity on what you actually want, which is different than knowing what you don’t want.  

Read that again, and if you would like more on that, read my Love Letter, “Why You Don’t Have What You Want”.

Get clear on the empowering energies that you DO want.

This empowers you in activating the right dragon.

Notice how you will find inspired action to create what you want, instead of reaction and pain-filled motivation. 

You are a queen, a goddess, a warrior. 

You hold life force energy to create whatever world you desire.

This is activating the right dragon.

Over, and over, and over again. 

To learn more about feminine energy and how it can help you create the life that you desire, click on the link below.

Warmly,
Suze

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How Can Feminine Energy Coaching Help Me?

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Hello, Lovely,
I am so delighted that feminine energy is a concept that is getting more and more attention, as I believe it is exactly what our world desperately needs. And now here you are, asking the question, “How can feminine energy coaching help me?” 

When I entered the world of coaching years ago, I was working under the umbrella of women’s empowerment/personal growth/self love. But as my own personal story expanded, I was exposed to feminine energy, and since then, my life has been dramatically different. Everything in my life started changing so organically and my life has never felt more authentic. Personally, I finally feel confident, powerful, and crystal clear on what I want and where I’m going. 

When a woman knows exactly who she is and what she wants, she is unstoppable. Her power is undeniable. She is magnetic, and she is free. 

Feminine energy coaching brings you back to who you truly are–the version of you that was before the world told you who you are “supposed” to be. Our life experiences have shaped us into the people that we now are. But, many of us have not been taught how to use our stories to our empowerment. We have allowed our stories to take away our power and to live a life that is only a shell of what we truly are or what our hearts secretly desire. We hide in fear behind people pleasing and expectations. We shut down our feelings and emotions in fear of being labeled negatively. 

Feminine energy coaching sets you free. It gives you a space to allow the real you to come out and be seen, heard, and experienced. It teaches you radical self acceptance, so that you can then turn any situation or feeling into your power, instead of being stuck in victim mindset. 

Feminine energy coaching shows you how to be in a be in a passionate relationship with a masculine parter. It empowers more masculinity out of your partner and creates intimate connection for both of you. It is possible for you to have the deep, soulful relationship that you have been secretly wanting all these years–it is accessed through feminine energy. 

Feminine energy coaching gives you clarity. We waste so much energy trying to make decisions everyday. We overthink, overanalyze and feel so confused, heavy, and chaotic inside. Feminine energy creates unique clarity because you are now living your life and making your decisions according to energetic responses in your body. Energy does not lie, so you can let go of a lot of worry when you start making decisions from an energetic standpoint. Getting out of your head and into your body creates incredible clarity because you only have to answer to yourself. It has nothing to do with anyone else but you. 

Feminine energy coaching heals you. It empowers you to get really vulnerable and real with yourself, your wounds, and your traumas to bring healing that changes the way you see yourself and what is possible for you. 

Feminine energy coaching is transformational for any woman who is tired of how heavy her life feels and desires to have purpose in her life. She wants to feel confident and powerful. She craves an authentic life that she feels alive and passionate about. 

There is so much more I could say about how feminine energy coaching can help you, but I feel that enough has been said for now. I hope you take a moment to reflect on all these points and really feel how profound these are. 

May you choose you and your femininity to remember who you truly are and how powerful you actually are. 

Sincerely Yours,
Suze

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