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The Truth About Shadows, Darkness, & Your Ego

Acceptance, Integration, & Wholeness

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Hello, Lovely,
The Truth about shadows, darkness, and your ego might surprise you.

For years I believed that ego death was the goal.

I thought that any “negative” thought should be quickly turned into a “positive” thought. This was supposed to train my brain to think and respond differently. 

And it worked, for a while.

Until it didn’t. 

I was struggling and stressed out to the max and relief was not coming. I could “change my mind” all I wanted, but the reality was that I was in a truly unjust and maddeningly absurd situation. 

The more I tried to switch from negative to positive, the more stress I could feel building in my body. Time stretched on and on with no sign of relief to my situation. 

I could see the cycles of my life flashing before my eyes, and I could see that I was stuck in the biggest, most deeply entrenched cycle of my life. 

It would take a lot more than just “thinking my way out” of this one.

It would take healing. 

No more denial.

It required radical acceptance.

Insane vulnerability and honesty.

This is feminine energy vs. masculine energy. Healing, raw vulnerability, and acceptance, vs. mental shifting.

Softness and compassion vs. focusing harder.

And in this process, I learned something that changed how I view myself and my life forever. 

What if it isn’t about ego death, but rather finding the strengths hidden there? 

What if it isn’t about labeling your darkness as “bad”, but rather finding the gifts that you have not seen there before?

What if it isn’t about running from your shadows, but understanding that shadows cannot exist without light?

Radical acceptance–whether it is for yourself or your current life situation–is the goal.

Going into the darkness and coming out holding the light is the goal. 

Integration of all aspects of yourself is the goal.

Our human and our spiritual self are 2 very different aspects of ourselves with different perspectives, objectives, and needs. 

Learning to create harmony and integration of both these parts of the self births wholeness, and from wholeness comes the Highest Power.

I know who I am.

I know what I am.

I know how I serve.

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Lovingly,
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Why You Don’t Feel Satisfied In Your Relationship

Commitment & Devotion

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Hello, Lovely,
Why you don’t feel satisfied in your relationship is because both you and your partner have commitment issues. 

Let me elaborate. 

I think it’s kind of unfair that most of the time, men have to take the heat for commitment issues. 

I think the issue goes a lot deeper than just that.

I also think we need to re-define commitment.

There is a big difference between a man who SAYS he is committed to you and a man who is so deeply devoted to you that you have no question that he is committed to you.

Also on this note, YOU will NOT be able to fully commit to a man who only commits to you with his words and not his actions. This feminine commitment is on the level of full body, heart, and soul level commitment. The level of commitment that you trust your man so deeply that you fully surrender yourself to him. You allow him to lead, and you no release the “need” to control or manipulate. You stand by him, no matter what.

When a feminine is committed to her masculine at this level of total commitment, she is able to embody a level of softness and surrender towards him that inspires him to shower unconditional love back on her. For more on this, please see “The Truth About Softness”. 

But here is the catch…

A feminine woman cannot allow herself to surrender at that level unless she feels that it is safe. 

And when she cannot be in that space, she will always be craving a deeper connection in the relationship, which, unless something changes, leads her down a path of feeling unsatisfied in the relationship. 

So how does she feel safe?

The masculine man has to earn her trust. Trust is not earned with words. Trust is proven by actions. 

And when I say “actions”, I mean, deeply inspired, consistent, and purposeful.

If you are resonating with this message, you really appreciate my article, “A Woman Never Forgets”. 

Until a man starts proving, over and over, endlessly and tirelessly, that he is totally devoted to her, she cannot surrender and find the connection that her heart desires.

It’s not about getting married or verbally committing to each other. 

It’s about being the trenches of life and having a man show up for you, over and over. 

It’s about being at your “worst” and your man never leaves your side.

It’s about growing in your journey and having your man growing as best he can along side you.

It’s about being vulnerable about your wounds and fears and working together to rise into higher versions of yourselves. 

It’s about a man that is so devoted to being with you, and exclusively you, that he is willing to do the work to feel worthy of you. 

Women hold all the power. We have just forgotten. 

We have just allowed ourselves to settle for men who weren’t truly committed to us. 

And when we settle for that dynamic, we will always feel unsatisfied in the relationship, because we will always be wanting a deeper connection. 

This kind of commitment and connection is an ever-growing, ever-deepening process. 

This is why we think the “honeymoon phase” is just temporary. It actually doesn’t have to be. The connection just needs to continue to grow and deepen.

Why you don’t feel satisfied in your relationship is because it takes 2 to tango on the commitment dance floor.

It’s an endless circle of Love, commitment, and devotion between the 2 partners.

The masculine proves himself worthy of the surrender of the feminine. This circles back to him, driving him deeper into love and devotion for her, which makes her feel more deeply connected and safe to be even more vulnerable and surrendered to his leadership. 

And on and on it goes.

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The Truth About Women’s Empowerment

Connection, Consistency, & Love

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Hello, Lovely,
The Truth about women’s empowerment is that it actually empowers men too.

In my journey of empowering and liberating women, I have had my fair share of people call me a “man hater.” This actually makes me really sad, because clearly the bigger picture is not being seen to some, yet.

This also shows me that there is still some re-defining to do, around some terms that have taken on an inaccurate connotation.

The Truth about women’s empowerment is that it also empowers men for 2 reasons:

  1. Women’s empowerment gives men the peace, stability, and longevity that they are looking for in a committed relationship. Women’s empowerment gives women the deep, internal and emotional safety that we need. We learn to take care of ourselves and be our authentic, unapologetic selves. An empowered woman in this state will not settle into a relationship that is not aligned with the REAL her, nor will she change herself to please the man. This means that when she does choose to relax into a relationship, she will be able to soften and surrender to the man, fulfilling his deepest desire, and giving him deep acceptance.  This also means that the longevity of the relationship is far more substantial, since she has already done her work to know exactly what she wants, and how she wants to show up in the relationship. So much of the destruction of relationships these days is simply because the woman got into a relationship without doing her work with herself first. The relationship is doomed when she wakes up from the illusion and realizes that she is stuck in a relationship that feels empty, disconnected, and unsatisfying.
  2. Women’s empowerment forces men to step up into their masculinity. An empowered woman will not allow a wishy-washy, unsure, unstable man into her life. She has worked too hard to create her world of peace and love. Women hold the power here, because it is women that hold the power of desire. We don’t need men; we want men. If a man desires to be with a woman, he is going to have to prove himself worthy of her love and affection. We want men with backbone, whom we feel safe with. We want men who have done the work to open their hearts to be emotionally available. We want connection and consistency. We want passion. We want unconditional love. This is only possible with an empowered man. The women rise up, and the men are forced to level up to be worthy. Our world needs this kind of man to provide stability and safety in these chaotic times.

For more on true masculinity, see “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”.

The Truth about women’s empowerment is that it ultimately empowers men too.

Stop allowing men to stay small and weak by calling it “man-hating.”

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The Truth About Softness

Finding Expansion & Integration

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Hello, Lovely,
The Truth about softness is that it is highly underestimated.

Silence can be far more powerful than aggressive noise, because it is often the less expected response—far more unusual, and far more different.

It is the things in life that are different that grab our attention the most; that stop us dead in our tracks; that make us stop and look.

Softness can be a woman’s most powerful weapon because it has the potential of completely disarming a man to the extent that he lets down the armor around his heart and falls to his knees to surrender his heart to a woman, utterly devoting himself to her, her happiness, and her pleasure.

The Truth about softness is that it is highly under-embodied.

The Truth about softness is that it can reveal a woman’s deepest, most vulnerable Truth to herself—that she holds the power to heal, to connect, to create, and attract whatever she desires.

Softness calms and allows for safety because it is non-threatening and radically accepting.

Softness heals because it is non-judgmental, empathetic, and compassionate.

Softness attracts because it is open and welcoming.

Softness connects because it is vulnerable.

Softness creates because it intuitively collaborates and nurtures.

The Truth About Softness is that, when used wisely, is a woman’s strongest weapon.

To access this weapon requires healing  your inner wounded masculine and feminine energies, and then integrating both of them together. To learn more about that, I invite you to read from my Love Letters, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”.

If you are ready for deep support and guidance on realizing and embodying your Truth and softness, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

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Lovingly,
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The Truth About Personal Power

The Intimacy Between Truth & Power

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Hello, Lovely,
The truth about personal power is that your Truth and your power are directly proportional to each other.

What does that mean?

The depth of your personal power is equal to the depth of your embodiment of your Truth.

What does that mean?

Let’s start at the beginning of “Truth”. If you haven’t already read my Love Letter, “The Truth Shall Set You Free”, please pause and read that first to help you catch up to where we are today. 

Now you can see that embodying your Truth (living and speaking your Truth), requires radical acceptance.

From this seat of acceptance, you have a choice. Run and hide from your Truth…no matter how “ugly” it may seem…or you can let it out into the world.

This right here.

This moment of allowing it ALL to be seen in the world is the moment you step into your power because you are no longer caring or allowing other’s opinions, beliefs, reactions, or responses to you affect how you view yourself and your Truth. 

You let it ALL out, which lets ALL your power in for you to feel and hold in your being.

The irony here is that if we are honest with ourselves, we deeply CRAVE to feel seen and heard in this world. 

We crave to feel free to be who we truly are.

We desire to be accepted for all that we are–the good, the “bad”, the “ugly”, and the “weird”.

I often think of this as letting your “freak flag fly.” 

This IS your power.

This IS the truth about personal power.

If you are ready for  deep support and guidance on realizing and embodying your Truth and power, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

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The Truth About Your Truth

The Truth Is A Living, Breathing Entity

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Hello, Lovely,
There are 3 things that I would like to make very clear with the truth about your truth…

  1. Your Truth is ever-changing because it is constantly evolving with you. Think about it…5 years ago, you did not know all that you know now. Your life experience has broadened since then and so your perceptions and perspectives on life has changed in some ways. A huge part of this journey is looking back and forgiving yourself for making decisions and allowing things in the past that you can now see were not actually for your highest good. You didn’t know then what you know now, and therefore, you cannot hold yourself accountable for whatever choices you made back then.
  2. Your Truth is raw, wild, and intense. Your Truth is the culmination of You and your life’s story. No one’s story is all sunshine and roses. Everyone’s story is filled with pain, mistakes, and darkness.
  3. Your Truth needs to be set free. This is a huge fear for most people and what keeps them trapped in a reality that cannot make them thrive or be fully fulfilled/satisfied. They are afraid of acknowledging their darkness and pain. They are afraid to expose it, because they are afraid of being rejected/not accepted/abandoned.

The truth about your Truth is that it is You—the real, unique you.

The truth about your Truth is that it is ALIVE and flowing with you, every moment that you are fully experiencing your life and consciously choosing it.

The truth about your Truth is that it is your story to tell, your life to live, your key to your ultimate expansion.

Stop running from it.

Feel your truth, embrace your Truth, live your Truth, speak your Truth.

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Open To Receive

Receive Your Heart's Desires

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Being open to receive is a state of being that is a cornerstone of feminine energy.
 
But receiving is a lot harder than it may seem, for some of us. 
 
I wrote about this in my public blog today, “3 Reasons Why It Is Hard To Receive”. 
 
In the 3 reasons, I talked about the need for healing both your masculine and feminine energies and referenced 2 other public blogs, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”. 
 
But let’s get deeper here in The Love Nest into the state of receiving. 
 
We have been conditioned in this lifetime that we need to work hard to make our lives turn out the way we want them to.
 
We have to give, to sacrifice, to do, in order to achieve the life we think we want. 
 
But for those of us on the feminine journey, we are choosing to no longer allow the things that feel heavy, hard, and exhausting. We want lives that feel really good, blissful, light, flowing, and free. 
 
To access a life that feels like that, we must learn to let go, lean back, and receive.
 
All that we desire is right there–we just have to allow it to flow in.
 
We must remove the blockages that are not allowing us to receive. 
 
In allowing this state of being, we are able to relax into our lives and our relationships. 
 
Our men then have the space to step forward and show up with the masculinity that we desire. This was a huge shift for me. After my marriage ended, I knew that my next relationship dynamic was going to be very different. I was very clear that I wanted a man who would take the lead and be powerful in his masculinity. I wanted him to be the one to figure the things out, plan the things, do the things, fix the things. 
 
What I have learned is that in order for a man to show up in that way, I must be totally open to receive his ideas, his perspectives, and his possibilities. I must let go of the “need” to control every little thing. 
 
Perfectionism had to go to allow relaxation and ease.
 
Why?
 
Because you must be relaxed to allow yourself to be open.
 
You cannot receive a gift with clenched, closed fists. You must relax and open your hands to receive a gift. 
 
You cannot be close-minded about how something is “supposed” to look or be done, if you are to receive the gifts that the man wants to give. 
 
Masculine men DESIRE to give, to make us happy, to fix, to do. 
 
We must allow them to give. 
 
We must stop blocking them from this giving. 
 
We must learn to be open to receive.
 
This also applies to our lives, in general. If you are here, you probably share my beliefs around spirituality and Universe/Source/God/Love. 
 
In developing a state of being open to receive, we are deepening our connection to Universe/Source/God/Love.
 
Being open to receive means that we trust that everything is working out for us and that we surrender and receive the gifts. 
 
We look for the gifts and lessons when things feel challenging.
 
We turn these moments into empowerment.
 
This empowerment then opens us up to receive even more. 
 
We choose the life we want, by deciding how we want our lives to FEEL, and then aligning with those energies.
 
From the alignment, our physical reality aligns up with our inner state of being.
 
We receive the physical manifestations and blessings that we desire. 
 
So now that I have shown you that being open to receive is the most magical state to be in, let me leave you with step 1 in learning to be open.
 
You must relax.
 
I know, I know…telling someone they need to relax is psychologically counteractive. 
 
Start with your physical body, because feeling anything in your physical body first makes it easier to translate into the metaphysical world. 
 
Take breaks in your day to open your hands and spread your fingers wide. Unclench your jaw. Pull your shoulders straight back and notice how it opens your chest/heart. Lift your gaze to the heavens, and spread your arms open wide.
 
Breathe deeply with all parts of your body open. 
 
You can also practice open body and relaxation by lying in your bed, and intentionally relaxing every fiber of your being. Really feel your bed underneath you and develop a sense of “melting” into your bed. Notice how it feels like you are releasing energy that is weighing you down.
 
This is how it feels to be open to receive.
 
Bring these feelings into your life. Let go of controlling every little thing and “needing” everything to be perfect. 
 
Release the “need” to “get it right.” 
 
Allow yourself to get messy and just sit back and see what happens.
 
Be sure to check out journal prompts #10 for questions to help deepen this practice of being open.  

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Softness & Surrender

The Art of Being A Woman

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We must deeply understand what it means to surrender and be soft, if we desire to feel powerful and peaceful in our lives and decisions. 
 

We must embody the art of softness & surrender in order to open our vision to see possibilities that we hadn’t seen before.

We must allow softness & surrender to become the new habit that empowers us to create our lives, instead of reacting to them. 

We must soften into the pain to be able to release it and feel the power in acknowledging it and choosing to let it go. 

It is in all this CHOOSING to soften and surrender, instead of reacting in the old, coping mechanisms that we start to feel our power. 

So, putting it really simply, what it is means to surrender is this…

Surrender is the art of learning to be at peace with what currently is, while still knowing where you are going. 

Surrender means that you accept what you currently see with your human eyes. 

You do not run or hide from the reality of it.

You do not give in to coping mechanisms that you picked up from a lower self awareness. 

You soften into the pain that you might be experiencing in the present moment.

You know that there is a secret gift somewhere in it, that you want to uncover. 

This gift is deeper self awareness, self love, self acceptance, self empowerment. 

But to access this…first, softness & surrender.

Surrender to what is. Stop fighting. Stop resisting. Stop your survival mode.  

Then comes step two…

Know where you are going.

Look beyond what currently know. Rest assured in knowing that your current scenario is simply old energy that is manifesting. 

You are no longer in this place. You are energetically in another state, and you are simply waiting for the human experience to catch up with your actual energetic state. 

Don’t be fooled by what your human eyes or human mind is telling you about the present moment. 

Soften & surrender to it. Accept it, and then shift your focus to where you are going.

It is coming.

Hold the faith.

Hold the higher energy.

Hold the patience. 

The softness & surrender will allow you to either be inspired by a new possibility that you had not seen before, or you will attract in a new opportunity that was never available to you before, in your lower state of reaction. 

The better life is unfolding for you. Soften into the process.

Relax your tight grip on timelines.

Soften.

Surrender.

Feel.

Become the higher You. 

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What It Means To Be Present

The Greatest Gift

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Last week in my 1:1 coaching client calls, I noticed that there was a some misunderstanding around the concept of what it means to be present.
 
Being present is the greatest gift you can give yourself and those you love, so we must be very clear about what it actually means!


What it means to be present is that you are fully and actively involved in the actual reality of the current moment. This means that you are fully experiencing whatever the current moment is trying to gift to you. 

Why this is such a big gift to yourself, is that it is here that you are able to see yourself. You get to see and acknowledge everything that you are experiencing. 

You get the honor of seeing the thoughts that bubble up and try to distract you with worry, anxiety, and negativity. 

You get to intimately know your “shadows”. 

You get to learn how to best understand and support yourself.

You get to build incredible self trust in seeing yourself and then CHOOSING the direction you actually want to move in. (Creation energy!!!)

Once you have mastered giving yourself this gift, you can extend it to your loved ones, which will make them feel fully seen, heard, important, understood, accepted, connected, and deeply loved.

And isn’t that exactly what we ALL desire to feel in our relationships?

So now that I have made it clear how important presence is, let’s get back to what it means to be present, so we can get into practice around that.

Being present is way more than just sitting on a cushion, meditating. It is bringing the essence of meditation into your daily life!

It is bringing your full attention to the activity that you are choosing. It is stepping outside of the auto-pilot that we tend to get stuck in, when we are doing something that we think requires little focus.

If you are taking a shower, you are feeling the water wash over you; you are listening to the sounds that the water makes; you are feeling the temperature of the water and the air; you are smelling the soap; you are delighting in the bubbles!

If you are driving to work, you are looking around like you have never driven this road before and you are very interested in what you can find on this route. 

If you are playing a game with your kids, your phone and other distractions are away, and you are watching and learning more about your kids and excitedly responding to everything that is going on.  

Living life in this way also means that you are self aware of when it is time for you to take breaks in your day to unplug from the “to-do list”, and go outside and be present with the outdoors. Don’t think. Just sit there and take it all in. 

This last suggestion is really a tough one for a lot of women. We get so tied up in the idea that our worth/value comes from how much we accomplish in a day, and we feel like we have to push so hard to get all the things done. 

This is very masculine energy, and is why it feels so heavy, exhausting, and often makes us feel resentment and dissatisfaction in our lives. Staying present with ourselves and respecting yourself enough to step away for 10 minutes builds self trust, calm, and connection. 

Doing this consistently will also really increase the feeling of being connected to something far greater than just you, and it will be extremely healing and inspiring.

What it means to be present is that you are actually living. 

You are refusing to live a “Groundhog Day.”

You are coming out of auto-pilot.

You are putting an end to overthinking.

You are experiencing all the juiciness that life has to offer.

And it feels so good.

This is living life with flow, ease, freedom, and feminine energy. 

You are a Queen.

You are a Goddess.

You are a Warrior.

It’s time to remember.
 
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What To Expect From a Man When Dating

Finding The Relationship You Want

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Hello, Lovely,
You must know what to expect from a man when dating if you are determined to have a deeply connected and aligned partnership with a masculine man.  

When my marriage ended, I knew I did not want to repeat what had happened in the marriage. I was very clear on what kind of man that I wanted to be with, and what my next relationship would look like. I told myself that I would rather be alone, than with someone who wasn’t exactly what I wanted. 

I had already done a lot of work with myself to heal and lean into my femininity, and I knew that I wanted to be with an awakened masculine man. (Please reference “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine” to clearly understand what I am referring to.)

If you resonate with what I am saying here, then this list will really help you stay on track. 

Here is what to expect from a man when dating:

  1. Consistent effort. Consistency is huge here. As women, we need to feel emotional and physically safe with our man. If a man is not showing up consistently with clear effort to make you feel important, he is not the man for you. If he cannot be consistent and clear with his intentions in the beginning, he will not be able to create emotional safety for you in a committed relationship. A man who truly sees you and wants you WILL make time for you and will prioritize you, no matter what is going on in his life. 
  2. Clear and open communication. This supports point #1. A masculine man will know the importance of good communication, and will do his best to make sure you feel good at all times. There is no need for you to chase him around, trying to get him to talk to you, because you feel insecure or unsure about something. 
  3. Conscious leadership and presence. The kind of masculine man that you desire will desire to lead you. He will want to support you, help you, and do whatever he can to make sure you feel happy and safe. He will show you that he is “tuned in” to you, listening to you, and fully present with you when you are together. He will WANT to lead. 

You cannot attract a masculine partner if you are the one leading the relationship along and being in your masculine energy. Check out “What To Know When Dating A Masculine.”

Lean back and let the man show you what he is made of. Make him prove that he is worthy of YOU. This is what to expect from a man when dating. 

If you found value in this article, I recommend “What Not To Do When You Are Dating.” I have found that it is easy for women to be in “chaser” energy, without being fully aware of it. I wrote this article to help clear some of that.

And if you are ready to get really clear on attracting the man and relationship you want, click the link below to read more on my 1:1 coaching.

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Suze

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