Deepening Self Love & Self Acceptance
Hello, Lovely,
My perspective on “what to do when life feels heavy” has dramatically changed over the years of my journey. The more layers of my healing and ascension that I work through, the more I choose to soften and see myself through the eyes of Love.
I feel that sometimes in the world of personal growth, there is an overemphasis on “staying positive” and shifting the mindset from “negative” to “positive”. From “darkness” to “light”. This sometimes causes a denial of part of our humanness and part of our experience, and a shaming if we are currently in a phase of life that feels really hard and heavy. We are made to feel like we are “weak” or “not good enough” in the spiritual world, if we are struggling with something that feels really challenging to work through.
How is this self empowering?! How is this going to encourage positive self talk?!
Hardship, pain, sadness, and suffering IS a part of our human experience. But HOW we choose to experience it what makes the difference.
This is where a mature soul will find a way to look the hardship dead in the eye and choose compassion and gentleness with the self. There is a deep honesty and vulnerability here that will say, “Yes, this IS really hard.”
But what comes next is even more important.
The next step is a conscious choice to choose the path of self nurturing, soothing, acceptance, love, gentleness.
How can I be gentle with myself during this time?
What would feel really calming and peaceful?
What would truly comfort me, like a cozy blanket, wrapping around me?
Sometimes, it is helpful to take yourself out of the situation, and imagine it was your best friend who is going through something really hard. Would you be criticizing her/him? Of course not! So stop that, and instead, treat yourself like you would treat her/him.
Recognize that this season will pass, and that the goal is simply to love and support yourself as best as you can, through this time.
Notice all the chaos and fear that your mind is generating, and choose not to believe it. Remind yourself again, that this is temporary. Your mind is just doing what it is supposed to do, but you don’t have to believe it.
For me, this is when I slow down and go to the woods and water. I am able to lose the “crazy” of my mind by sinking into the peace that is found by being present in nature. Everything is calm, the human noise is lost, and I am surrounded by beauty and abundance. The sounds of nature carry an energy of serenity and remind me that everything is ok.
“This too shall pass.”
What to do when life feels heavy is actually a “non-doing.” It is being, which is completely feminine energy. It is choosing to stop doing life and take a moment to slow down and be with what is by nurturing the self.
If this approach feels softer and better for you, I invite you to click on the link below and learn more about my feminine energy coaching.
I would love to hear your story, and help you shift into a story that feels really, really good.
Sincerely Yours,
Suze