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Open To Receive

Receive Your Heart's Desires

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Being open to receive is a state of being that is a cornerstone of feminine energy.
 
But receiving is a lot harder than it may seem, for some of us. 
 
I wrote about this in my public blog today, “3 Reasons Why It Is Hard To Receive”. 
 
In the 3 reasons, I talked about the need for healing both your masculine and feminine energies and referenced 2 other public blogs, “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”, and “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”. 
 
But let’s get deeper here in The Love Nest into the state of receiving. 
 
We have been conditioned in this lifetime that we need to work hard to make our lives turn out the way we want them to.
 
We have to give, to sacrifice, to do, in order to achieve the life we think we want. 
 
But for those of us on the feminine journey, we are choosing to no longer allow the things that feel heavy, hard, and exhausting. We want lives that feel really good, blissful, light, flowing, and free. 
 
To access a life that feels like that, we must learn to let go, lean back, and receive.
 
All that we desire is right there–we just have to allow it to flow in.
 
We must remove the blockages that are not allowing us to receive. 
 
In allowing this state of being, we are able to relax into our lives and our relationships. 
 
Our men then have the space to step forward and show up with the masculinity that we desire. This was a huge shift for me. After my marriage ended, I knew that my next relationship dynamic was going to be very different. I was very clear that I wanted a man who would take the lead and be powerful in his masculinity. I wanted him to be the one to figure the things out, plan the things, do the things, fix the things. 
 
What I have learned is that in order for a man to show up in that way, I must be totally open to receive his ideas, his perspectives, and his possibilities. I must let go of the “need” to control every little thing. 
 
Perfectionism had to go to allow relaxation and ease.
 
Why?
 
Because you must be relaxed to allow yourself to be open.
 
You cannot receive a gift with clenched, closed fists. You must relax and open your hands to receive a gift. 
 
You cannot be close-minded about how something is “supposed” to look or be done, if you are to receive the gifts that the man wants to give. 
 
Masculine men DESIRE to give, to make us happy, to fix, to do. 
 
We must allow them to give. 
 
We must stop blocking them from this giving. 
 
We must learn to be open to receive.
 
This also applies to our lives, in general. If you are here, you probably share my beliefs around spirituality and Universe/Source/God/Love. 
 
In developing a state of being open to receive, we are deepening our connection to Universe/Source/God/Love.
 
Being open to receive means that we trust that everything is working out for us and that we surrender and receive the gifts. 
 
We look for the gifts and lessons when things feel challenging.
 
We turn these moments into empowerment.
 
This empowerment then opens us up to receive even more. 
 
We choose the life we want, by deciding how we want our lives to FEEL, and then aligning with those energies.
 
From the alignment, our physical reality aligns up with our inner state of being.
 
We receive the physical manifestations and blessings that we desire. 
 
So now that I have shown you that being open to receive is the most magical state to be in, let me leave you with step 1 in learning to be open.
 
You must relax.
 
I know, I know…telling someone they need to relax is psychologically counteractive. 
 
Start with your physical body, because feeling anything in your physical body first makes it easier to translate into the metaphysical world. 
 
Take breaks in your day to open your hands and spread your fingers wide. Unclench your jaw. Pull your shoulders straight back and notice how it opens your chest/heart. Lift your gaze to the heavens, and spread your arms open wide.
 
Breathe deeply with all parts of your body open. 
 
You can also practice open body and relaxation by lying in your bed, and intentionally relaxing every fiber of your being. Really feel your bed underneath you and develop a sense of “melting” into your bed. Notice how it feels like you are releasing energy that is weighing you down.
 
This is how it feels to be open to receive.
 
Bring these feelings into your life. Let go of controlling every little thing and “needing” everything to be perfect. 
 
Release the “need” to “get it right.” 
 
Allow yourself to get messy and just sit back and see what happens.
 
Be sure to check out journal prompts #10 for questions to help deepen this practice of being open.  

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Softness & Surrender

The Art of Being A Woman

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We must deeply understand what it means to surrender and be soft, if we desire to feel powerful and peaceful in our lives and decisions. 
 

We must embody the art of softness & surrender in order to open our vision to see possibilities that we hadn’t seen before.

We must allow softness & surrender to become the new habit that empowers us to create our lives, instead of reacting to them. 

We must soften into the pain to be able to release it and feel the power in acknowledging it and choosing to let it go. 

It is in all this CHOOSING to soften and surrender, instead of reacting in the old, coping mechanisms that we start to feel our power. 

So, putting it really simply, what it is means to surrender is this…

Surrender is the art of learning to be at peace with what currently is, while still knowing where you are going. 

Surrender means that you accept what you currently see with your human eyes. 

You do not run or hide from the reality of it.

You do not give in to coping mechanisms that you picked up from a lower self awareness. 

You soften into the pain that you might be experiencing in the present moment.

You know that there is a secret gift somewhere in it, that you want to uncover. 

This gift is deeper self awareness, self love, self acceptance, self empowerment. 

But to access this…first, softness & surrender.

Surrender to what is. Stop fighting. Stop resisting. Stop your survival mode.  

Then comes step two…

Know where you are going.

Look beyond what currently know. Rest assured in knowing that your current scenario is simply old energy that is manifesting. 

You are no longer in this place. You are energetically in another state, and you are simply waiting for the human experience to catch up with your actual energetic state. 

Don’t be fooled by what your human eyes or human mind is telling you about the present moment. 

Soften & surrender to it. Accept it, and then shift your focus to where you are going.

It is coming.

Hold the faith.

Hold the higher energy.

Hold the patience. 

The softness & surrender will allow you to either be inspired by a new possibility that you had not seen before, or you will attract in a new opportunity that was never available to you before, in your lower state of reaction. 

The better life is unfolding for you. Soften into the process.

Relax your tight grip on timelines.

Soften.

Surrender.

Feel.

Become the higher You. 

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What It Means To Be Present

The Greatest Gift

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Last week in my 1:1 coaching client calls, I noticed that there was a some misunderstanding around the concept of what it means to be present.
 
Being present is the greatest gift you can give yourself and those you love, so we must be very clear about what it actually means!


What it means to be present is that you are fully and actively involved in the actual reality of the current moment. This means that you are fully experiencing whatever the current moment is trying to gift to you. 

Why this is such a big gift to yourself, is that it is here that you are able to see yourself. You get to see and acknowledge everything that you are experiencing. 

You get the honor of seeing the thoughts that bubble up and try to distract you with worry, anxiety, and negativity. 

You get to intimately know your “shadows”. 

You get to learn how to best understand and support yourself.

You get to build incredible self trust in seeing yourself and then CHOOSING the direction you actually want to move in. (Creation energy!!!)

Once you have mastered giving yourself this gift, you can extend it to your loved ones, which will make them feel fully seen, heard, important, understood, accepted, connected, and deeply loved.

And isn’t that exactly what we ALL desire to feel in our relationships?

So now that I have made it clear how important presence is, let’s get back to what it means to be present, so we can get into practice around that.

Being present is way more than just sitting on a cushion, meditating. It is bringing the essence of meditation into your daily life!

It is bringing your full attention to the activity that you are choosing. It is stepping outside of the auto-pilot that we tend to get stuck in, when we are doing something that we think requires little focus.

If you are taking a shower, you are feeling the water wash over you; you are listening to the sounds that the water makes; you are feeling the temperature of the water and the air; you are smelling the soap; you are delighting in the bubbles!

If you are driving to work, you are looking around like you have never driven this road before and you are very interested in what you can find on this route. 

If you are playing a game with your kids, your phone and other distractions are away, and you are watching and learning more about your kids and excitedly responding to everything that is going on.  

Living life in this way also means that you are self aware of when it is time for you to take breaks in your day to unplug from the “to-do list”, and go outside and be present with the outdoors. Don’t think. Just sit there and take it all in. 

This last suggestion is really a tough one for a lot of women. We get so tied up in the idea that our worth/value comes from how much we accomplish in a day, and we feel like we have to push so hard to get all the things done. 

This is very masculine energy, and is why it feels so heavy, exhausting, and often makes us feel resentment and dissatisfaction in our lives. Staying present with ourselves and respecting yourself enough to step away for 10 minutes builds self trust, calm, and connection. 

Doing this consistently will also really increase the feeling of being connected to something far greater than just you, and it will be extremely healing and inspiring.

What it means to be present is that you are actually living. 

You are refusing to live a “Groundhog Day.”

You are coming out of auto-pilot.

You are putting an end to overthinking.

You are experiencing all the juiciness that life has to offer.

And it feels so good.

This is living life with flow, ease, freedom, and feminine energy. 

You are a Queen.

You are a Goddess.

You are a Warrior.

It’s time to remember.
 
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Rethinking Femininity

Reclaim Your Power

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I laughed softly to myself as I titled this coaching post, “Rethinking Femininity”. 
 
I laughed because this title is a complete oxymoron.
 
Thinking is the opposite of femininity.
 
But I also realize that in my life experience, and in working with women, we sometimes need to redefine labels that have taken on a disempowering or negative connotation. We have to rethink the whole idea to find a new path to liberation.
 
Not only did I find humor in this title, but I found humor in looking back over my life and my views with femininity.
I come from a background where I thought femininity was “weak” and the very opposite of powerful.
 
So it’s funny how I have now built an entire business and lifestyle around promoting a return to femininity!
 
It is in remembering my femininity that I finally actually feel powerful, confident, clear, and free. 
 
So let’s get back on topic…
 
Femininity is the surrendering of the struggle of trying to succeed like a man, and the re-claiming of your power as a woman. 
 
The power of being a woman is multi-faceted.
 
We hold incredible power with men, because we hold the power of attraction. They are drawn to us and innately desire to make us happy. A man who truly loves a woman will do absolutely anything to make his woman feel happy and loved. An honest and aware man will clearly tell you “women hold all the power.” 
 
If that’s true, then why are we struggling and feeling exhausted with trying to succeed like men???
 
We also hold incredible power in emotions. Clearly, we are the more emotional gender, and this has been often used against us, to keep us small. The truth is that all human behavior is driven by deep rooted emotion, whether the person is fully conscious of it or not. Humans all behave, decide, and act in response to an inner spark of pain or pleasure. We are either chasing after pleasure, or running from pain.  
 
Learning how to embrace our emotions and then turn them into empowerment/creation, is the key to power and influence. 
 
The struggle of trying to succeed like a man is very heavy, and if you are honest with yourself, you will notice a quiet little voice inside you, telling you that something is “wrong” with how your life feels. 
 
“It shouldn’t be this hard.”
 
“I never want to feel this way again.”
 
“Something is not right here.”
 
“Why don’t I feel fulfilled?”
 
Reclaiming your power in femininity feels like massive relief. 
 
You do not have to do all the things.
 
You can relax.
 
You can flow and feel free.
 
You can find calmness and confidence. 
 
You do not have to figure it all out. 
 
There is nothing to fix.
 
Femininity unlocks the magic and freedom that you crave at a soul level. 
 
Femininity heals the wounds and traumas of your past. 
 
Femininity empowers your attraction power.
 
Femininity allows your masculine soulmate to find you.
 
Femininity is everything you have ever wanted. 
 
Femininity is your truest and highest state of being.
 
You know who you are.
 
You know what you are.
 
You know how you serve. 
 
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Queen Energy

Taking Your Power Back

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For those of you who are on my email list, you know that I have been touching on Queen Energy. (If you do not receive my emails, and would like to, please sign up below!)
 
I absolutely LOVE talking about queen energy, as I feel that it is the first step in reclaiming your power and sense of self worth.
 
It is also the first step out of codependency or victim-mindset. 
 
It is the energy that we must keep coming back to, over and over again, when life feels hard and stressful. 
 
It is the energy that will free you when you feel “stuck”. 
 
Queen energy is clearly a big deal! 
 
How do we access it?
 
You must first to willing to take responsibility for your life and what it currently looks like. Be honest with yourself about what is going on in your life. 
 
What do you like?
 
What do you wish was different?
 
The purpose of these questions is so that you finally allow yourself to SEE the honest state of affairs in your life. You cannot change something that you aren’t even aware exists!
 
From this seat of seeing, imagine you are sitting on a throne. You are allowing all the people of your kingdom to come before your throne and offer up their complaints to you. You are accepting and listening with compassion to them all. You want to help them, so you are listening to everything they have to say, so that you fully understand what is happening in your kingdom.
 
You hold all the power to change what is happening in your kingdom.
 
Now that you know what is going on, you can ACCEPT the current state of affairs. Imagine that you just recently re-claimed your throne as queen. Imagine that previously, you were not able to be on your throne, and so now that you are back on the throne, you must accept what has happened in your absence. 
 
You must accept whatever is going on in your kingdom (your current life situations).
 
Acceptance is step one in queen energy.
 
Next, you decide that YOU are going to take charge of making some changes.
 
No one is going to do it for you. You are going to make the changes.
 
Decide what needs to change. Allow yourself to create a vision for yourself of the life that you want to have. 
 
With this vision, promise yourself (hold yourself accountable) to doing 1 little thing each day, that makes you feel like you are getting closer and closer to your vision. 
 
Be patient with the process. 
 
Turn your negative thoughts into self empowerment thoughts.
 
Look for opportunities where you can choose to do or respond differently than you have in the past. 
 
Remember that you cannot have a different result, if you do not try a different process. 
 
As long as YOU are deciding what happens and YOU are consciously and actively choosing the things in your life, you are learning to be in your Queen Energy.
 
You are learning to trust yourself, and you should be very proud of yourself for this.
 
As women, we have been programmed to NOT trust ourselves, so this is very deep work. 
 
If you would like to learn more about learning to trust yourself, you may appreciate my Love Letter (blog) “What Is My Intuition?”
 
You are the Queen of your life.
 
You get to decide at any moment how you are going to feel.
 
You get to decide how you are going to respond to anything in your life.
 
You get to decide what you will allow and what you will not allow in your kingdom (life).
 
You know who you are.
 
You know what you are.
 
You know how you serve. 
 
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Realignment Energy

Remembering You

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For those of you who are on my email list, you know that I have been touching on realignment energy. (If you do not receive my emails, and would like to, please sign up below!)
 
What is realignment?
 
Why is it such a big deal?
 
What can you do to embody it?
 
Realignment is like an energetic detox.
 
It is a deep, energetic level release of any struggle, thought process, or negative thing that is holding us back from our higher selves. 
 
It is remembering the foundations and the simple things that support us in our rising.
 
It is lightening the load to come back home to our Truths.
 
It is opening up to receive the blessings, guidance, and inspired next steps.
 
It is letting down our defenses to shift into the receptive, connected mode. 
 
It is the key to manifesting the life that your heart desires.
 
It is the key to feeling powerful, instead of stuck in your life.
 
It is the key to shift out of victim mindset into victory mindset.
 
So, how can we access this great power, detox/release, and shift?
 
1. Read my post in this group on “Intentional Resting vs. Resting” 
2. Clean up your morning routine. Start your day with a clear intention of what you are creating today (mantra/affirmation/intention)
3. Choose your foods wisely. I offer coaching specific to YOUR body and what it thrives with. Learn to feed yourself foods that actually FEEL supportive, clean, invigorating, grounding, and light. 
4. Drink more water. Plan out your day with water and follow the general rule of thumb–1/2 your body’s weight in oz, per day.
5. Meditate more
6. Take time away from mindless distractions, and tune into places that expand your whole being–I like to listen to Abraham Hicks on Youtube, read personal growth books, research something that I want to learn more on. 
7. Move more slowly. Choose your actions with the clear intention of supporting your daily mantra. Notice your thoughts and release any that do not align with your daily mantra. Expect less of yourself, as you focus more on your internal space and sense of wellbeing. 
 
These are the basics of what will really help you realign with the life that your heart desires and with the higher, more expanded You. 
 
You know who you are.
 
You know what you are.
 
You know how you serve. 
 
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