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Why It Is Important To Claim Responsibility In Relationships

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Hello Lovely,
Today let’s talk about why it is important to claim responsibility in your relationships.

This topic has so much to it that I have been writing a few blogs on it. You may want to start with reading “Owning Your Own Shit”

We live in a world where we blame the other person. If something is not going well, it is so easy to point out what the other person is doing “wrong”, and complain to our friends about it.

It has gotten so prevalent, that we do not even see how far from the Truth it has gotten us. 

Women blame men; men blame women, and everyone is unhappy. 

But let’s go into the energetics of all this.

When we blame someone else, it actually feels very disempowering, because we are then placing ourselves in a limited world where we “need” someone else to change or do something  differently.

And how does that actually feel?

It makes us feel powerless, hopeless, and stuck. We are “dependent” on someone else and have lost all the power over our own manifestations. 

How is that every going to create our Epic Love Story?

How is that ever going to make us feel confident, expansive, and free?

The only solution that I have found is to start claiming responsibility, a.k.a. take your power back. 

And there is another benefit that is not acknowledged enough…

The reason why it is important to claim responsibility in relationships is because it actually makes you more valuable in relationship. 

When you take responsibility for your part of any problem in a relationship, we are recognizing that you have the power to change the entire dynamic. 

You are taking the leadership role of moving the relationship into a more expanded place. 

You are doing your part to make it better. 

You are willing to make changes to support the higher good of the relationship/collective. 
(Unity Consciousness). This organically raises the vibration of yourself and the relationship dynamic. 

Clearly, all this holds incredible value.

You are taking the time to dig deeper to find self expansion.

You are bringing solutions to the table by shifting/healing yourself. 

You recognize your power, and you embrace the “rules” of self mastery. 

The reason why it is important to claim responsibility in relationships is because in so doing, you are doing your part to affect the change in the world that you see it needs. 

It only takes one person to start a domino effect of change, healing, growth, and higher vibration. 

Blaming everyone else fixes nothing, accept soothing the ego and staying small in our comfort zones. 

Taking responsibility embraces change, leadership, and growth. 

If you resonated with this message, you may also  like to read,“When Vulnerability Is Not Enough.”

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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When Vulnerability Is Not Enough

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when vulnerability is not enough

Hello Lovely,
When vulnerability is not enough, things start to get interesting…

I started learning something in the past year…

When I finally allowed myself to speak up and be vulnerable, it is really devastating when the other person does not recognize the bleeding of my heart and my call for connection and healing. 

So then my reaction would be anger…

Because feminine anger always comes from a place of feeling unloved.

It is not that I am actually unloved. It is that my past experiences taught me that I am not loved when my vulnerability is not supported and protected.

I would feel shame, deep disappointment in not feeling seen, and anger in feeling completely invalidated.

This then would generate a new toxic cycle with myself where I would feel emotionally unsafe.

But then it all started shifting for me when I realized that people don’t always know when you’re being painfully vulnerable, and trying to do it all differently, than you have done it before.

When vulnerability is not enough, we need to see it as an opportunity to go deeper, instead of blaming the other for not seeing us. 

They don’t always know when you are intentionally trying to recreate a new version of yourself and show up in a new way, and how hard your internal struggle is.

Sometimes what feels like a huge deal to you because of your life’s experience, doesn’t feel like such a bug deal to someone else, so they simply don’t recognize the amount of courage you gathered to communicate something. 

So when you choose to step outside your comfort zone and get vulnerable, there is a significant need to feel seen and safe in your vulnerability.

If the other person does not recognize that this is a huge, scary moment of vulnerability, they may not respond in the way that would be really healing and helpful, and this could potentially turn into more trauma, build resentment, and destroy trust and safety in the relationship.

So the solution?

❤️Take more radical responsibility for your own healing.

❤️Humble yourself and go even deeper into vulnerability.

If you choose to step outside your comfort zone and communicate something really scary and vulnerable, choose to validate yourself out loud as you do it.

“This is really hard for me to talk about and I am really going outside my comfort zone with this…”

If you are speaking to someone who is good for you and truly loves you, this will help then know that this is a moment where they really need to step up and support your healing.

We need to stop the blame game and find better ways of emotionally connecting and getting the healing we need.

People are at different stages of their emotional development…let’s help everyone involved by being more humble, clear, and compassionate in our communication.

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read, “Epic Love” .

Another great read is “Owning Your Own Shit.”

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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What If Everything We Ever Wanted

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what if everything we ever wanted

Hello Lovely,
What if everything we ever wanted is on the other side of the trigger? 

What if the next step of expansion is to stop running from the trigger? 

What might be possible if we choose to stay and see the trigger as an opportunity to embraced, so that we can take our power back & finally close out the trigger and it’s self-limiting/self-sabotaging patterns/addictions?

What if the freedom we long for is on the other side of the trigger?

What if the stability we crave is found within, when we choose to stand tall in the storm, choose not avoid/abandon the self, choose not to blame the other, choose to take responsibility, choose to create a new energetic pathway, and choose to self validate OUT LOUD?

What if everything we ever wanted is on the other side of the trigger and every time we run, we run from everything we ever wanted?

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read, “Epic Love” .

Another great read is “Owning Your Own Shit.”

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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Owning Your Own Shit

Foundations for Your Epic Love Story

owning your own shit

Hello Lovely,
It is becoming more and and more clear to me that the secret to growth in relationships is owning your own shit…

Two years and five months ago, this man quite literally walked into my life.

I was not looking for a boyfriend, and he was not looking for a girlfriend.

In the human perspective, it was the worst possible time for me to start a new relationship.

In the twisted sense of humor that Spirit has, it was the most “perfect” time.

In our very first conversation, I experienced an energetic connection that I had not experienced before.

It felt calm. Comfortable. Safe.

I felt attraction, but no nervous excitement, like usually happened when I met a guy. 

And there was something about his eyes…

Looking back, it has been the most challenging, heartbreaking, life-changing, growth-inducing, messy, and healing relationship of my life. It has been Epically difficult, and I still cannot wrap my head around some of the insane challenges that have been thrown at us.

At the same time, it has been the most Epically profound, telepathic, soul-connected, unconditionally loving, radically accepting, raw, and real relationship of my life.

The biggest thing that I have learned out of it is that women subconsciously sabotage and block themselves from receiving the Epic Love that they desire.

The more you are willing to put yourself in the hot seat of owning your own shit, the more you free yourself to manifest the Love your heart desires.

It is in the ownership that you hold ALL your power. You see how your past stories with men (and conditioning) have created all these belief systems that sabotage EVERYTHING and affect everything you do/think/see/react.

You see how you protect yourself from the very thing you want, because you have not learned how to trust yourself and your intuition, NO MATTER WHAT anyone else says.

You develop a self worth that gives you the strength to claim what is yours, and hold the space (faith & trust) between what your current physical reality is showing you, and what you know (in your heart) is possible.

If you want Epic, you have to choose to be Epic.

You hold all the power.

Are you ready? Let me know when you are.

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read, “Epic Love”.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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I Am With Love

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i am with love

Hello Lovely,
Today I would like to share with you a moving mudra…”I am with Love.”

Find a comfortable seat and place your hands, palms up, in your lap.

Connect your thumb to each finger on your hand.
 
Speak 1 word as you touch each finger to make the phrase…
 
I
 
Am
 
With
 
Love
 
Repeat at least 3 times.
 
Breathe in the Love and feel your heart expand.
 
Exhale fully to release any stress.

Repeat as many times as necessary in your day to realign back to Love and remember that “I am with Love.” 

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read, “Epic Love”.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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Self-Sufficiency Blocks Your Epic Love Story

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self-sufficiency blocks your epic love story

Hello Lovely,
Have you ever realized that self-sufficiency blocks your Epic Love Story?

Being overly self-sufficient is a limiting belief because it limits you to only take on things that you know you can handle on your own without any help.
 
What might be possible if allowed yourself to take on things that you know would require collaboration/partnership? (Freedom energy)
 
How might this expand you and your life experience? (Abundance energy)
 
What new life skills could it teach you?
(Humility energy)
 
What opportunities have you declined because it could potentially involve collaboration? (Intimacy energy)
 
Being overly self-sufficient is a closed-hearted space that limits us from our fullest expression because we miss out on the joy & bliss of connection.
 
The deeper you allow yourself to be feminine and rise in your Divine Feminine self, you will see how self-sufficiency blocks a man from being the masculine energy that you crave in your life. 
 
Self-sufficiency blocks your Epic Love Story because it is a protective wall that keeps your man outside and unable to give you what your heart actually desires.
 

If you resonated with this message, you may like to read deeper into this subject by referencing, “What Epic Love Requires.”

Also, “Epic Love”.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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The Insecure Feminine Feeds The Ego Of The Masculine

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the insecure feminine feeds the ego of the masculine

Hello Lovely,
“The insecure feminine feeds the ego of the masculine”…

It’s easier to blame men than to be accountable and do the inner work to expand.
 
It’s easier to take on the victim mindset and receive sympathy, because there are plenty of people in that space.
 
The insecure feminine will accommodate the demands of the ego of the masculine because she is afraid of losing him or his “love”.
 
She is afraid of negative consequences.
 
But she is actually giving her power away by not standing in her truth of what is acceptable and what is not acceptable.
 
She is accepting less than she desires.
 
Instead of being accommodating to his demands, she must speak and hold her boundaries, and release the fear of a negative result.
 
If he has an issue with her boundaries, then he can go.
 
Unhealthy cycles will continue until she develops the strength to disrupt them by refusing to participate in them.
 
Simple, but not easy.
 
I am by no means excusing abusive behavior from men. I am offering empowerment to women to stand up for themselves and remember that they DO hold power in any situation.
 
We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves.
 
It takes an enormous amount of inner work to embody the strength of this level of self worth.
 
If you resonated with this message, you may like to read deeper into this subject by referencing, “The Problem With Being Turned On.”

Also, “Epic Love”.

Reach out by clicking the link below when you are ready to start living from this radical open-heart space to reveal your Epic Love Story. 

All my love to the Divine Feminines,

Suze

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The Truth About Shadows, Darkness, & Your Ego

Acceptance, Integration, & Wholeness

the truth about shadows, darkness, & your ego

Hello, Lovely,
The Truth about shadows, darkness, and your ego might surprise you.

For years I believed that ego death was the goal.

I thought that any “negative” thought should be quickly turned into a “positive” thought. This was supposed to train my brain to think and respond differently. 

And it worked, for a while.

Until it didn’t. 

I was struggling and stressed out to the max and relief was not coming. I could “change my mind” all I wanted, but the reality was that I was in a truly unjust and maddeningly absurd situation. 

The more I tried to switch from negative to positive, the more stress I could feel building in my body. Time stretched on and on with no sign of relief to my situation. 

I could see the cycles of my life flashing before my eyes, and I could see that I was stuck in the biggest, most deeply entrenched cycle of my life. 

It would take a lot more than just “thinking my way out” of this one.

It would take healing. 

No more denial.

It required radical acceptance.

Insane vulnerability and honesty.

This is feminine energy vs. masculine energy. Healing, raw vulnerability, and acceptance, vs. mental shifting.

Softness and compassion vs. focusing harder.

And in this process, I learned something that changed how I view myself and my life forever. 

What if it isn’t about ego death, but rather finding the strengths hidden there? 

What if it isn’t about labeling your darkness as “bad”, but rather finding the gifts that you have not seen there before?

What if it isn’t about running from your shadows, but understanding that shadows cannot exist without light?

Radical acceptance–whether it is for yourself or your current life situation–is the goal.

Going into the darkness and coming out holding the light is the goal. 

Integration of all aspects of yourself is the goal.

Our human and our spiritual self are 2 very different aspects of ourselves with different perspectives, objectives, and needs. 

Learning to create harmony and integration of both these parts of the self births wholeness, and from wholeness comes the Highest Power.

I know who I am.

I know what I am.

I know how I serve.

If you are ready for deep support and guidance on your empowerment journey, I am accepting invitations from new clients for 1:1 coaching with me.

Click the link below to learn more and connect with me.

Lovingly,
Suze

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