Step 2--Empowered Action
Hello, Lovely,
This Love Letter, “What To Do When You Feel Angry”, is part 2, so if you haven’t read yesterday’s Love Letter, “What to Know When You Feel Angry”, please go back and start there!
I shared with you yesterday the three A’s of anger…
- Accept
- Allow
- Act
Today, we are going to talk about step 3, Act! This is where you will learn to use your anger to empower you, instead of disempower and push people away. The unhealed, toxic response would be to explode on someone, but I’m sure you have figured out by now that that doesn’t really help you or anyone!
So, here is where the anger makes all the difference. Use that energy to fuel the feeling of taking back your power.
Instead of continuing to feel powerless, stuck, and “invisible”, you have done your inner work to see what the actual problem is with steps 1 and 2. You can see where your needs are not being met.
Now communicate and/or get into action from this very clear and vulnerable place.
Maybe you need to calmly and respectfully have a conversation with someone and let your voice be heard about what you feel has been misunderstood or not seen.
Maybe you need to get into action and create visible impact to feel like you are bringing justice to something that feels unjust or unfair.
In my own experience, I have found that sometimes it is hard to do something different or “outside my comfort zone” until I feel enough anger about it. If I am feeling angry, I clearly need to do something to release that energy in a healthy way.
I recognize that I clearly need to feel seen and heard, so I slow down to correctly identify what I am feeling “invisible” about. This time alone helps calm me down, so that I don’t explode on those I love.
Then, from the seat of calm, I am able to see a creative and higher solution so that I make sure that whatever part of me needs to feel seen, is seen. Again, this often means stepping outside my comfort zone, but I wouldn’t have been brave enough to that, if I had not felt the anger.
Anger has a lot of powerful energy behind it. It is fire.
Use that fire to burn down and expose whatever is making you feel unseen and powerless.
Then, rebuild what you now realize is important to you.
I hope you enjoyed this 2-part Love Letter series.
For more help on letting your feminine energy heal and guide you, click on the link below.
Sincerely Yours,
Suze
