Finding The Relationship You Want
Hello, Lovely,
What not to do when you are dating is such a huge topic in my 1:1 coaching right now. Women are realizing that they want more in their relationships, and that they want men to show up in a powerful and clear way.
We have discovered that our dissatisfaction in previous relationships is due to being with men who were not in their masculine energy. (For more on understanding this, check out “The Wounded Masculine & The Awakened Masculine”.)
So, if you fall in the category of awakened women who desire a very masculine man for partnership, you need to know what not to do when you are dating. (To be clear on awakened women, please reference, “The Wounded Feminine & The Awakened Feminine”.)
Clearly, if you are looking to attract something different than what you have had in your past, you are going to have to show up differently!
What not to do when you are dating is really simple.
- Stop reaching out, texting, and calling the man. Stop initiating. This is all masculine energy. If you are the one with masculine energy, it is impossible for the man to show up with the masculine energy you say you desire. How a relationship starts determines how the relationship will play out. Let him reach out and initiate contact.
- Stop making plans. Let him make the plans and ask you to join him. Your presence is an honor. Make him ask for it to show you that he values you, your time, and your presence.
- Stop asking to talk. If you are not in a committed relationship, it is your responsibility to see what is happening to cause insecurity within yourself. Notice what is bubbling up inside yourself. What needs are not being met, and is he capable of meeting these needs? Or is this an old, codependent habit that needs to be released? You may like to read “Am I In A Codependent Relationship?” A man who has done his work in awareness will sense when something is “off” and will initiate a conversation to make sure to make sure you feel safe and secure.
- Stop ignoring your energetic responses to him. Does he make you feel heavy or light? Does he make you feel comfortable or nervous? The man who is good for you will make you feel light, comfortable, and safe.
You cannot attract a masculine partner if you are the one leading the relationship along and being in your masculine energy.
Lean back and let the man show you what he is made of. Make him prove that he is worthy of YOU.
If you are ready to get really clear on attracting the man and relationship you want, click the link below to read more on my 1:1 coaching.
Warmly,
Suze